Burden of loving a moody person

by Sunday News Online | Sunday, Sep 2, 2018 | 873 views

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LOVE is not supposed to hurt. If it does then it is absolutely fake!

Love is the most incredible thing in the world, but when those you love fail to give it back, one becomes bitter and starts losing hope in it. The worst part about heartbreak is that you lose yourself trying to hold on to that person who cares little.

Truth be told, there is nothing as difficult as being in a relationship with a moody person. You get to be confused and hurt the most as their behaviour is unpredictable. You are never sure of what to say or do around them, lest you mistakenly step on their toes.

You feel like you have to walk on eggshells when around them. You never know when you are going to say something that will set them off as they are like a time bomb ready to explode anytime and nothing pleases them. When you try hard to understand and engage them in a conversation, they will always tell you that everything is fine and you are just bothering them.

This is the burden of being in love with a moody person and it hurts!

Dealing with moody people can become tiresome in a long-term relationship. It is normal for everyone to be a little moody from time to time, some people have more frequent and more volatile mood swings. If your partner is one of those people, life can really become unpleasant.

We all struggle with vulnerable feelings in love whether we want to admit it or not. It’s inevitable that you will hurt each other with careless words or selfish actions. While these occasions sting, the pain is often fleeting and you have to get over it quickly.

Of course true love sees beyond all imperfections as each party gets to accept the other person the way they are, but it should not be torture. Even if you know your partner’s weakness, at times you fail to handle their mood swings as they leave you heartbroken.

A moody person will make his better half feel lonely and rejected. This hurts and only love can cover up all pain and make someone feel wonderful again. So even if a person is moody, when he loves, he should be on top of his game to cover up for his weakness.

Remember that the most amazing and romantic things aren’t in materialistic stuff. The things that matter the most are those little things you do every day to show your significant other that you care and that you are thinking of them. When you love someone unconditionally, you would go out of your way to make them happy and feel special.

Mood swings are temporary and that is the reason why they are called such. A moody person may simply be going through a rough time in his or her life. Your partner may be exhausted, ill, worried or unhappy. If so, once the root cause is resolved, the moodiness is likely to recede. Your partner may just need to be listened to and supported. However, if your partner is habitually moody and cranky for no apparent reason, there may be more to it. So figure out and wait for your partner to heal.

A moody person can go quiet for no reason and doesn’t say a single word to you. She/ he just sits there and look miserable.

The worst thing is that this silent treatment drives the other partner crazy. One day she’s fine and laughing and joking, the next she’s not saying a word and most of the time her mood swings have no grounds whatsoever. Being in such a relationship tortures someone’s heart.

At times you also have to check on what causes your partner to be moody so you that you can find the best way of dealing with her. Since your unconditional love has forced you to stick to that person despite their weakness, then know how to handle him than to be frustrated by it all the time.

At times mood swings can be caused by hormone fluctuations and this does not only happen to women, but men as well. The best remedy is that when your partner gets moody, it is important to stay calm. Understand that they need their space at times. Of course be there, if they need you around, but let them work through their own frustrations. Don’t get easily offended; show some affection, making sure you don’t overdo it.

It is important to maintain your own good mood. There’s no need for both of you to be moody. Your own emotional reaction to your partner’s bad mood, if indulged and expressed, will often make a bad situation worse. Keep this mantra at the front of your mind at all times: you cannot control your partner’s mood. You can influence it, meaning with a strategic response you can increase the likelihood that it will improve, but that won’t happen if your strategy is simply to indulge your own emotional reaction.

To  avoid constant heartbreaks, when in love with a moody person, develop a strategy ahead of time to deal with him/ her so it does not take away your happiness.

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