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Hie Sis Noe
I am a girl aged 17 dating a 23 year old; he wants to get me pregnant so that I don’t leave him. What should I do?
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At 17 I am not sure you understand what you are getting yourself into. If you have a child now you are going to miss out on a lot of things, you are too young, live it up while you can. You don’t know what you are getting yourself into, while having a child is the best thing in it is a full time job, when you have a child, there is no going back, the baby will come first, not you, not your boyfriend – the child comes first. 24 hours seven days a week. A baby can wait until you are married. It is selfish for this man to want to impregnate you so that he does not leave you. Don’t count on this guy he can talk all he wants now but many guys split after the baby is born. Just wait, you won’t regret waiting, plus you will be able to give the baby a better life if you are married with a stable job and education.
Hi Sis Noe
I am 29 and an early ejaculator wanted to know if I will be able to impregnate, help please.
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One single sperm can make union with the ovum and create life. When a man ejaculates there are million or more sperms but it only takes one to impregnate a woman. As long as you prematurely ejaculate inside the vagina pregnancy will occur – its not how long you last that determines fertility, it’s whether you ejaculate inside her. Reproduction does not happen when you suffer from severe premature ejaculation, which is a scenario where you ejaculate before penetration. Premature ejaculation is not infertility.
Hi Sis Noe
I am 20 and he is 27, we are in the process of getting married. The problem is that he rarely sleeps in the house, he is always drunk but says he loves me, we are in the process of getting married so I feel like he will play run away groom, should I continue with him or what?
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Your miserable time with this guy has given you a glimpse of the kind of marriage you will have with this man. You are watching your married life unfold right in front of you before you have even gone through with it. What you are seeing is not so great, is it? Well if you don’t pay attention to what it’s telling you – you will have a really mediocre and unfulfilling life ahead. Your husband-to-be is doing everything he can to avoid life – the alcohol, lack of intimacy and affection – these are all escapes from his life, part of which is you.
He is showing you who he is right now, someone that runs from his dissatisfying life outcome, instead of someone that takes it by the reigns and changes it into something that is rewarding and fulfilling. Does someone that runs from problems sound like the right partner to take on the challenges of life with? This guy hides his head in the sand like an ostrich when problems arise and you will be divorced before you know it. Seriously, you are marrying an irresponsible man and I can guarantee you two have already grown out of the relationship whether you wish to admit it or not. You deserve more than this guy. It is through experiences with a variety of different people that you gather a better understanding of who is in fact the right person for you, not trying to change one of your first serious relationships into what you want – which will most likely end in frustration. He is not the right man for you.
Hi Sis Noe
I am 16 dating a 26-year-old guy, I love him because he is caring and loving but the problem now is that my mother does not like him she says she does not like him as he is not my type but I had promised to marry him.
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Honey, you are too young to be talking about marriage. Seriously, you are too young and most likely you love him for the wrong reasons. You are 16, he is 26 – I can guarantee you that with time you will grow out of the relationship whether you wish to admit it or not. The circumstance of immediately agreeing to a marriage suspiciously sound like it is driven by irrational emotion rather than thoughtful planning and rationality.
Twana, spend your early teens exploring relationships and gaining a better understanding of yourself and others, not marrying that pothead. You deserve more than that, don’t you? It is through experiences with a variety of different people that you gather a better understanding of who is in fact the right person for you, not trying to morph one of your first relationships into what you want – which will most likely end in frustration. At 16, the last thing that should be on your mind is wedding bells.
Can’t you just enjoy playing the field until you find the right one? This one sounds way too awkward, one sided and you are working too hard for it to be a two way thing. Your taste in men, perspective on life, and many other things will change dramatically; say even five years from now. So do you really think a guy you pick when you are 16 is going to be one you would pick if you did it all again at 24? I don’t think so. He may also use your age difference as a tool to help his self esteem which may have been battered in whatever the hell happened to him. Since you are younger, he may feel more empowered to do things, such as, blaming you, or using it as a means to justify getting angry easily and so on. Also ask yourself, “Why isn’t he going out with someone his own age?”
This is generalising, but there is usually a reason behind it. You really have no idea if he loves you or not. It maybe romantic talking about how you want to care for him and be there for him but it all wares off very quickly when you realise you made a blunder. On this one I have to go with your mother, be very careful about this relationship and look at it for what it is.
Hi Sis Noe
Is it true that you can get pregnant while on the pill and what are the chances of that happening?
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Yes, you can get pregnant while on the pill. There are a number of reasons why a woman on birth control pills could become pregnant. The most common is that she neglects to take the pill on one or more days. Depending on how busy your lifestyle is or how frequently you renew your birth control pill prescription, it can be easy to forget to go to the drugstore and then delay starting a new package – while still being sexually active.
Another mistake that women sometimes make is taking the pill at different times on different days. Birth control pills should be taken at the same time every day. It is admittedly inconvenient to have to take a pill every single day, always at about the same time – but this is essential to ensure that birth control pills work successfully to prevent pregnancy. Also, birth control pills are sometimes affected by other medications.
Certain antibiotics, anti-seizure and anti-fungal medications have been linked to reduced effectiveness in birth control pills, along with some herbs and vitamins. Before your physician prescribes any new medication, make sure to let her or him know that you are on the pill, to avoid any potential problems.
Hi Sis Noe
I am 19 years old and my boyfriend won’t allow me to wear makeup. What should I do?
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I don’t think your boyfriend has a problem with you wearing makeup as such, he has a problem with you putting too much of it. When a man says he does not like you to wear makeup, he really means he does not like you to look like you are wearing makeup. My advice is wear very little makeup. But if you want to wear more than that, go ahead. You should not let a guy control how much makeup you choose to wear.
Honestly, it’s your face. As long as you are not caking it on, there is nothing wrong with wearing makeup. But hey, if having a boyfriend who thinks you are beautiful without makeup is your worst problem, I would say you are very beautiful.
