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Hi Sis Noe
MY sister-in-law has been trying to seduce me for months and I finally fell into her trap and we had sex. Since then we have been having sex. Somehow I blame my wife because she is always away so her sister is always around the house even though she has a man. — Worried.
Reply
It might be easy for you to blame your wife for your infidelity, but please understand that you are responsible for everything that you do. And even if this woman tested you and offered herself to you, you were the one who yielded. Temptation is not a sin. It is when a person yields to temptation that he has committed sin. Of course, I recognise that your wife took you for granted — she loves being away. She does not think much about the marriage which, to me, is very sad. But as I see it, both of you have destroyed your marriage. Your sister-in-law has taken you over. She loves you and you love her. You say she has a man, why can’t you tell her to stay with her man? It seems to me that now you are accustomed to going to bed with her, it is hard for you to quit. Your wife and you need time to fall in love again. Encourage her to spend more time in with you and persuade your sister-in-law to concentrate on her man.
Hi Sis Noe
I am 15 years old and I realised that one of my breasts is bigger than the other. My mother said I should not worry and that the difference is not noticeable, but I can’t help it. — Worried.
Reply
From time to time, I have had to counsel girls whose breasts are their concern. I know that girls, especially teenagers, are so very conscious about how they look. Their physical appearance is very important to them. I want to assure you, however, that it is common for girls to observe that one breast might be bigger than the other. That does not mean that the girl is abnormal. Often, the smaller breast fills out to the same size of the other, or almost the same size. Therefore, your mother was quite correct when she told you that you ought not to be too concerned about it. If one of your breasts is very large, your mother should take you to her family doctor and have him or her examine the breasts and advise her appropriately. That might help to give you peace of mind. Right now, don’t worry about it. Everything is going to be all right, and I am sure that its nothing to worry about.
Hi Sis Noe
My friend’s husband wants to have a relationship with me but I don’t want. He has been begging for a relationship for months now. What should I do? — Worried.
Reply
You are an intelligent woman. Tell that man to go to hell or to jump off a cliff head first. Warn him that you will tell his wife if he doesn’t stop. Don’t ever encourage him when he raises that sort of conversation with you ever again.
Hi Sis Noe
I am a 30-year-old man and I am in love with a woman aged 45. The problem is not her age but the way she treats me — she treats me like a boy. I moved into her house and ever since she does not respect me even though she does almost everything for me. — Stressed.
Reply
Perhaps she sees you as a boy who is living in her house. I don’t mean to imply that she doesn’t love you, but perhaps she believes that because she is much older than you, you should listen to her. She invited you to live with her in her house. She wanted more than just company. But I am not sure that this is the woman you should be with. I am not saying she doesn’t love you or you don’t love her, but she is not treating you with the greatest of respect. On the other hand, she is very kind and romantic. My suggestion is that both of you go to see a counsellor. Don’t stay with this woman because of what she has. Stay with her because you genuinely love her and you can’t do without her. Try to find out from her why she would want you to remain with her. I wish you well.
