The Sunday News
Hi Sis Noe
I AM 21 years old and I lost my virginity last month and I have been bleeding ever since. What is wrong with me? — Help.
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You should see a health care practitioner for any abnormal vaginal bleeding. It is not always necessary to go to a hospital emergency department for this problem. An office visit to a gynaecologist (a doctor who specialises in female reproductive organs) is sufficient if you are only bleeding without any other symptoms. Make sure that the bleeding is coming from the vagina and is not from the rectum or in the urine. You can insert a tampon into your vagina to confirm that the source of your bleeding is coming from the area of your vagina, cervix, and uterus. Keep track of the number of pads or tampons you use so that you and your doctor can determine the amount of your bleeding.
Hi Sis Noe
My penis is always oozing semen even when I am not having sex. — Stressed
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The condition you are experiencing is called spermatorrhea, wherein the sperm leaks out without any ejaculation. This may happen due to many reasons such as a powerful sexual urge. This may also happen if your hormones are at a peak. I suggest you to go for semen check-up with your doctor. On the other hand it might be semen leakage, a sexual disorder found in men. Seminal leakage is caused by weakening of the parasympathetic nervous system. This eventually makes maintaining erection a problem. The problem leads to side effects such as fatigue, back pain, hair loss, weak erection, premature ejaculation, testicular pain and cramps in the pelvic cavity. You should know that the problem usually arises from the habit of over masturbation. Are you an excessive masturbator? If you are then you need to stop; that will go a long way in helping you over seminal leakage. Masturbation, if practiced regularly, stimulates the acetylcholine or parasympathetic nervous functions. Stimulation when taken to a greater level can cause over production of sex hormones and neuro-transmitters like acetylcholine, dopamine and serotonin. A larger secretion of these hormones and neuro-transmitters causes the brain and adrenal glands to perform excessive dopamine-nor epinephrine-epinephrine conversion. This makes the functioning of brain and body to be extremely sympathetic. The chemistry of body changes to a greater extent with excessive masturbation, leading to problems like seminal leakage. One of the important steps for overcoming the problem of seminal leakage is to get rid of or to effectively reduce the masturbation habit and ejaculation frequency. Intake of more proteins in the form of soya bean products must be increased. It is also important to reduce the amount of caffeine in the diet. Consumption of nutty foods like sunflower seeds, peanuts, sea food, vegetables and seaweeds must be enhanced, whereas red meat and dairy products must be minimised. More juices and water must be consumed. This kind of diet supports a more firm and engorged erection, which last longer. The prostate and testicles feel more alert and energised.
Hi Sis Noe
I have stretch marks on my hips, upper arms and on my bums. The problem is that the stretch marks are itching and some of them are darkening. Please help me find a remedy to reduce the itching. — Worried.
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Stretch marks are caused when skin changes shape too quickly through processes such as weight gain, weight loss, or pregnancy. This sudden change causes a tear in the middle layer of your skin, the dermis. The collagen and elastin fibres in the dermis rupture and you end up with “underground” scars that look like stripes on the affected area. The sooner you treat them, the better your chances of removing them, but that does not mean you are out of options if you have had your stretch marks for years. When stretch marks first appear, they’re generally a darker colour: Deep purple, red or even brown. After a period of time, the stretch marks will turn white or translucent. Once it reaches this later stage, it becomes a lot harder to treat. Hydration and nutrition are two key things to keep your eyes on when you are treating stretch marks. Most people live their lives in a state of mild dehydration without realising it. If you are not drinking at least eight glasses of water per day, you are probably dehydrated. Your skin will be dryer, which makes it harder for stretch marks to disappear. The second key is giving your body the nutrients it needs to repair the stretch marks, without adding fat to the body which will stretch the skin and worsen the stretch marks. Add more fruits and vegetables to your diet. Stop eating unhealthy foods like pizza or microwave dinners, and especially stop drinking sodas and eating artificial foods like chips or candy. Massage your skin four to five times a day, using either wheat germ oil, cocoa butter or Vitamin C oils. These all provide nutritional benefits to your skin while simultaneously adding moisture to the skin. By massaging your skin, you loosen up the muscles and tissues, giving more room for blood to flow and for the tissues to repair themselves. This is especially important in the early stages of stretch marks.
Hi Sis Noe
Is it possible to get pregnant if I have sex on my periods? — Curious.
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Though possible, it is highly unlikely that you will get pregnant during your monthly menstrual cycle. During your period, your body works to shed the uterine lining that it has been building up over the last month, in preparation for pregnancy. When you don’t become pregnant, small uterine contractions begin, encouraging the unfertilised egg and unused endometrium to be shed from the uterus and through the vagina. This means that there is no egg in the fallopian tubes to become fertilised and no lining to help a developing embryo to implant properly. This being said, there is a small possibility of pregnancy during your period. Women often mistake slight bleeding that can occur with ovulation as their period. Unprotected sex at this time can greatly increase your chances of becoming pregnant. Additionally, sperm can live in the female reproductive system for up to three days. Because some women ovulate at the very end of their menstrual periods, sperm may still be alive at this point, and able to fertilise an egg. The down side is that it may increase your chances of getting endometriosis. This is when the lining of the uterus is reattached somewhere it is not supposed to be. During intercourse the menstrual fluid containing freshly sloughed off endometrial tissue can be forced up the fallopian tubes thus blocking them and reducing your chances of future conception or may be forced even further and attach itself to any one of your organs. Most doctors will admit they do not know the causes of endometriosis but this is one accepted theory. Please be careful and know the only cure is surgery and this is usually not a complete cure.
Hi Sis Noe
Since I gave birth I don’t feel my man’s penis, he does not satisfy me. I fear that my vagina is now too big for him. Please help. — Worried.
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After giving birth vaginally, it’s normal for the vagina to be larger than it was before, and this effect generally is more pronounced after the birth of a large baby. This is caused by relaxation of the pelvic floor musculature. These muscles will lose their tone with each successive birth, although pelvic floor exercises known as Kegels can help you tighten them up. Tighten the muscles at the front lower part of your body as if you are stopping yourself from urinating and adopt this hold for 10 seconds then relax and repeat and keep up for five minutes. Do these four times a day. Some women are not comfortable with exercise and that’s their choice but if you really want to help yourself and keep muscles strong then pelvic floor muscle exercises are ideal for helping you to achieve this. Since this includes the muscle that you use to stop and start the flow of urine, you can check if you’ve identified the right muscle by testing your Kegel technique while urinating — if you can stop the flow of urine when tightening, then you know that you are contracting the correct muscle. But don’t actually do your exercises while urinating; just use that to check your technique. Sexual pleasures will become more intense as the muscles become more elastic and stronger. These exercises improve the bladder so that you will not leak urine. However, your vagina will not actually become smaller but the opening will be tighter and you will feel his penis like never before.
SOUL MATES
I am a lady aged 24 and a mother of one. I’m willing to have a man who is ready to settle down, his age should be between 28 and 32.
I am a 49-year-old man, who is HIV-positive, looking for a mature lady of the same status who is prepared to settle down.
I am a 37-year-old woman, who is beautiful, has a good heart, a professional, has one child, who loves the Lord Jesus Christ, who is looking for a guy who is strictly single please, a professional also aged 37 to 45, can be with one child or two or none and who is a Christian, needs a stable relationship and wishes to settle down. I am HIV-positive so he should be of the same status. Someone with order and focus and is serious. No married men!
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I’m a man aged 40 with two kids living positively. Looking for a lady aged 30 to 34 who is ready for marriage, a working one who’s not ill-looking.
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I am 21 years old, HIV-negative. I have one child, I work. I’m looking for a 22 to 30-year-old guy. I want someone who wants to settle down and is working, I don’t mind if he has kids or not, .
I am a 24-year-old mother of two looking for a man to settle down with in Bulawayo.
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