The Sunday News
FOR starters, I am straight and have therefore not spent a good deal of time looking at other women’s labias. So unfortunately I can never know what the right size is and I cannot be of help to those that are asking me about size. However, as per your request that I write a follow-up on labia extension this week I will write about how to pleasure the labia. Use it to your advantage and men should also use it the right way. As most of you said you have been lost in the use of the labia as someone said it was more about fascination than exploring it.
So according to my interesting research I have established that the labia are bursting with delicious nerve endings like the clitoris and the labia are hard-wired for pleasure. In fact, the labia and the clitoris are linked to the same type of nerves, giving them a powerful sexual charge.
Seeing as the labia are basically hidden from their owner in a nicely hard-to-see place, most women are not all that familiar with their own bodies and as women we hardly explore our own bodies.
Learning a little more about your own body can open a world of the unknown joy that we carry and not just to find ourselves subscribing to the norm of having sex as a wifely duty that we tied ourselves to when we took the vows. In as much as sex is a marriage plus, it needs to be enjoyed by both parties to ensure that partners fully enjoy each other and women to reach their orgasm.
So the labia are two sets of ‘‘lips’’ that protect the sensitive clitoris and are the opening to the vagina — please note these three things are different and all have different roles to play and should not be mistaken to mean the same thing as people often confuse these. The labia are made up of the labia minora, or ‘‘inner lips’’ and the labia, or ‘‘outer lips’’ know this too as it will help you to fully utilise the secret pleasure unknown to many.
Most women often struggle to orgasm and have left that to their men to enjoy, as most men finish off the job with an orgasm. I am no sex expert but I always make sure that every sexual encounter leaves me satisfied as I orgasm, I have taught myself how to get my body to enjoy the act.
I took charge of my own sex life, I do not need anyone to help me to enjoy and I often make it known to my partner what my expectations are so as to ensure that we have a healthy sex relationship.
Even to those that are clueless about the labia make sure they help out and put it to good use by knowing how to do it on your own, so the labia are sensitive to touch, temperature and can stretch. I take time to learn new things and each time I hear of a new thing I take time to explore it before I dismiss it so I enlighten myself and enjoy my sex life.
The size of the labia is different in every woman and each and every one of us has to ensure that we are comfortable with what we have and use it to our own advantage.
According to responses I received I learnt various ways of pleasuring the labia from both men and women and I will share them with you too.
You can try the ice treat, make sure you are warm enough, and get some ice, move the ice over the labia, running it up and down the length of the inner and outer lips and monitor the sensation. Does it get you hot or turn you off? If it makes your partner hot then it’s a must do but if there are signs of irritation on your partner then stop and try something else as some of these things are not a one-size-fits-all.
If you get the green light it means you can go ahead and enjoy the encounter by even spicing it up with other forms of play. Play with warmth and surround the labia with a hot water bottle (not too hot!) or add a tingle of warmth with a warming lube, these are quite affordable and can be a bonus if you invest in one.
Ok, normally I don’t post some of the feedback on this platform but because of the overwhelming questions I received this week I am unable to respond to all the individual emails. To all the girls, women, ladies and whoever thinks that their lips are too big or too small, well, they are not so be comfortable with what you have. Large is good and small too is good.
I have asked many men and all of them prefer different sizes and some say the large lips make sex more pleasurable not just for the man but for the woman too. So just remember that when you start thinking “am I too big-lipped down there?” Remember that the lips wrap the penis around as it slides in and that is what makes sex better. So ladies, I say as a proud owner of large lips ENJOY!!! It feels better and looks better.
Same goes for the small ones down there, make the best of it and for once you can be selfish and do it for yourself and no one else.
Is larger better? Yes, for all that is partaking in sexual activity. Embrace your lips, they are always smiling and are juicy and inviting. Enjoy and be happy. Your lips are yours and it is up to you to do whatever you like with them. The labia, big or small, are rich in nerve endings, and this means their owner may get special pleasure from their nibbling, tugging, stroking or licking.
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