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I WAS reading and following Bev’s arrest and I do not mean to be judgmental because I am only human but I think her dressing and dance moves are a bit on the extreme side but who am I to judge?
A lot is said on how men should change to respect us as women better but I think if we do not respect ourselves then men will never see past their current way of seeing us as “objects”. Men should realise and truly believe women are as talented and capable as men and sometimes even more. So we should value ourselves.
There are several characteristics that men look for in the opposite sex. Women who always seek to increase their value are often women who respect themselves than women who put themselves out as everyman’s object. I don’t know about you, but I reckon that a woman who doesn’t respect herself comes off just a bit more pitiful than a man who doesn’t respect himself.
Maybe you’ll consider it the opposite way. It’s those characteristics that you look at and sigh, because you can tell that it’s heading towards wreckage and it’s inappropriate for a woman to behave in that manner. If you don’t respect yourself, you can never get that man to hop off the fence and come to your side of the field and respect you. They will merely see you as that “object” and I, for one, do not blame them.
The best way to earn respect from anyone is to respect yourself, I mean respect yourself and others will respect you. Only by self respect will you compel others to respect you. Men respect women who love and respect themselves.
Holding yourself and your life in high regard is a great way to demonstrate respect for yourself. Set high standards for yourself and do not make choices that are disrespectful to the life you want and who you want to be. I know occupations differ but selling yourself short by wearing nothing and doing sultry dances all in the name of paying bills is self disrespect at its highest. I believe one’s body is the temple of the Most High but then how does he dwell in a temple that is hardly covered and entertains any man who is willing to get a piece of you.
Respect is earned through your behaviour. When mistakes are made, amends must be made as well but for someone to be dragged to court for violating acts they can avoid by merely respecting themselves as a woman is really bad. I don’t know if it’s nature, nurture, or what, but often times women sell themselves short to men, who tend to choose not to look beyond us as “objects”. Well, whatever the reason, the time has come for women, including me, to assert ourselves as experts in their chosen respectable fields.
Is anyone else sick of seeing the next woman taking their clothes off, because it’s something they feel they have to do, to prove a point? Isn’t it time that women realised they have done themselves no favours whatsoever and the whole liberation thing is taken too far at times. If liberation means “taking your clothes off” it has only served to cheapen women to the point that men don’t really find that they are worth anything more than objects.
I don’t think we should respect people on the basis of gender or age or any other category. We should respect individuals. If a person is respectable then they should be given respect.
Sometimes women don’t respect their bodies or their minds and somehow still feel it’s acceptable to demand respect from others.
This, of course goes for some men as well, but it’s more frightening to see the trends that we are seeing today in women. Honestly women should be respected for who and what they are. Because I am a woman I want to urge all women out there to respect their bodies and value themselves above being an “object”.
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