The Sunday News
WOMEN we need to face the facts, winter is the least sexy of all the seasons where we miss out on a lot of steamy sessions. Naturally, when the temperatures drop, the layers increase and we go to bed wearing layers of clothes, but as women in the cold season we still have to maintain that feminine magic.
So we cannot be comfortably covered head to toe in an abundance of clothing and spoil the bedroom fun. This week I received an e-mail from a certain man who was complaining about the layers his wife is always wearing to the bedroom and he said when he looks at her he just feels sleepy and would rather sleep than have action in the bedroom.
He claimed that the layers are killing the bedroom vibes and he dreads night time. While traditional cold weather night guards like down-filled pyjamas, bulky, chunky knits and thick woolly tights are winter essentials necessary for keeping warm, they are not the sexiest of clothing.
Inevitably, all seductiveness goes out the window once you bundle up in layers that leave you looking like a moving wardrobe. I know winter is upon us and degrees dip below but you do not have to sacrifice style and fun in the bedroom all in the name of warmth. Well, there is a way to turn up the temperatures in the bedroom on cold winter nights while keeping cozy and having quality time with your partner.
Compare warm, winter-ready practicality with a heady hint of sensuality to strike the perfect chord between visible and teasing moments, do not hide yourself behind layers this winter, ladies please. Marriage is not seasonal and looking good knows no weather. Whether it is delicate displays of skin in an off-the-shoulder revealing nightie, or a dropping neckline that defies the dropping climate change, the secret to staying sexy in winter starts in keeping it heated up in the bedroom.
I get a lot of e-mails from women too wanting to “get inside the heads” of their husbands when it comes to how he acts, and reacts about sex, pity I do not have all the answers but I will help with what we sometimes overlook. As people we also need to realise all husbands are different. I feel there are a lot of wives out there who really want to make their sex life with their husband what God intended it to be. They, however, get frustrated by not understanding why he is always asking for sex, even when they just had it, or what it means when he goes for days or weeks without even attempting. I know it can be frustrating and as human beings we tend to jump to conclusions, but before we get all worked up let’s try and play our part and see how that goes.
Please note this column is not meant to make wives feel inadequate, or bad about what they are not doing right, but rather to let you look inside you for a little bit, and help you understand where your husband is coming from and why things get cold too in the bedroom during winter.
I think a lot of the problems that arise in a couple’s sex life, start with lack of communication and understanding on both sides, on how a man and woman views sex in totally different ways.
Finding and understanding those differences is the first step to having and maintaining healthy, passionate, and incredibly fulfilling sex life. As women we should not take it for granted that men always think about sex and so they should just grab it even when we are not being creative in the bedroom. We need to set aside time and put in a little effort to make things steamy in winter. Remember, men are visual by nature they get turned on by what they see. So, taking care of how you look is a high priority if you want to arouse him. Think of this as a pre-foreplay tip to use before you even begin touching him. If you are both going to bed, dressing up in something sexy and hot is going to start turning your man on hours before you start getting physically intimate. This is great for building sexual tension with him and often brings a good result — a night full of passion perhaps.
One of the things men like most in women is the softness of a woman’s skin, remember the first time your man touched the skin on your back or on your legs. Think back and imagine how that felt. So please do not cover up with layers of clothes in winter it is a no-no. The soft feel of a woman’s body is an instant turn on for any man so why deprive your man? Leave out skin this winter and cover less just to remind him of the texture of your skin without really letting his hands get under tones of clothing layers.
Wear nightwear that is made of soft fabrics like satin or silk and every time he touches you, he will want more. Change your cold weather style to be seasonally appropriate and yet attractive using these finely hot bedroom inspirations to bring your sexy back this season. Sometimes what you wear to the bedroom may have a huge impact on setting the mood right for a hot steamy action packed something in the bedroom.
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