Marriage doesn’t mean the end of style

12 Apr, 2015 - 00:04 0 Views

The Sunday News

OVER the past few weeks, I have been writing articles that have received much applause.
Someone said to me a couple of weeks ago, “Pete, you really have come a long way with this column. You have written a wide range of topics that are entertaining and essential to society. It’s surprising that you have never won or been nominated for a prize.” While I was seated there coy faced, I modestly responded, “This is not about winning prizes. It’s a passion, whether or not my effort is noticed I love writing about fashion.”

To be honest when I started writing this column, I wasn’t sure if I was doing right or wrong. It was somewhat an experiment on my part and other colleagues.

Nonetheless, I am quite honoured to have my work being recognised and appreciated by many, it is my duty after all, as an entertainment and fashion reporter to present to you issues that both entertain and educate.

In my article last week where I spoke of how mothers can still look beyond motherhood, I received so much response, both negative and positive. The positive mostly coming from ladies, while the men, which came as no surprise, persecuted me for my musings.

Ladies and gentlemen everybody is entitled to their views and we basically cannot shoot down the next person’s ideas because you find them provoking. I recall that most of the arguments raised by men were based on insecurity.

Let’s be honest gentlemen, if your wife is . . . “HOT” you can’t really be sure if she would ever cheat on you with another person.
That is just a perception and you need not worry. Such perceptions mainly arise from bar talk and some other unconventional set ups that lead people into rattling about a whole lot of mumbo jumbo! Some of the comments, negative and positive, read as follows: “Peter you have been doing a good job until now. How dare you incite our wives to dress up like delinquent teenagers? If a woman is married and has children, she has to look the part.”

Another said to me, “Of all the things you have written, you really put the nail on the coffin. Most men find their wives unattractive because they just let themselves go. They think that once they are married and become mothers they would have achieved a woman’s worth.”

Some of these comments got me thinking . . . has the world recently experienced a paradigm shift? Seeing as men are so much confused about what they want!

We are in the 21st century and should realise that some of the customs we adhered to have since ceased to exist. For those that are for the notion that a woman’s place is in the kitchen, I have some serious news for you.

Times have changed. It is no wonder why most marriages don’t work, think about it . . .
You are married and have two children, you force your wife to stay at home, she finds no reason whatsoever to take care of herself, appearance that is.

The next thing you find that the same man complains about the wife being unkempt and winds up having numerous partners — small houses as they are popularly known. While on that point, some men also let themselves go after they wed. The whole grooming and taking good care of themselves disappears with the wind after marriage. I remember eavesdropping on some women’s conversation once. Whoever they were talking about must have really let himself go! They spoke of how he had forgotten how to shave, shine his shoes or even bother to buy himself an occasional t-shirt.

The point here is whether it is women or men in marriage, always make it a point to look your best. It doesn’t mean that once you have wedded you don’t have to look your best or tidy.

Remember Marshal Munhumumwe’s song, Rudo Moto (Love is like a fire) that spoke of how a man or woman would leave their supposed better half if they fail to take care of themselves.

Feedback:
Hie I just read your article on mummies. Did you forget Pokello? I stand for all the Zim mums, I have four beautiful kids and I rock! Even those without kids don’t stand a chance. – 0772373430

Till next week let’s keep styling. For feedback please sms or whatsapp ONLY 0772337433. You can also link up with me via e mail – [email protected]

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