The Sunday News
“Oh, baby now let’s get down tonight
Ooh baby, I’m hot just like an oven
I need some lovin’
And baby, I can’t hold it much longer
IT’S getting stronger and stronger” sings Marvin Gay and I want it to get stronger this week as we take it up from setting the mood to getting all warmed up for action.
When you have been with the same person for a long time, making love can feel as routine as doing the dishes.
If you want to keep your relationship alive, you need to bring passion back into the bedroom. If you are desperate for ways to spice things up with your long-term honey, look no further because aunty Charity is here to help you set it all on fire.
When you started off with your partner, you could not keep your hands off each other or go more than a few hours without getting intimate but now that you have been together for years, your love making is about as inspiring as reading a novel.
You know it is time to work things out when you can’t remember the last time you had sex and if it takes you more than a few moments to remember the last time you had sex.
Chances are that it’s been way too long, or that it was so unmemorable, routine or boring so much that you literally forgot about it.
Some women lose it until they cannot do what they used to when they first started doing it.
You know you are on the road to sexual disaster when you have stopped grooming yourself in anticipation of sex.
Ladies, if you used to shave your legs every morning and now you are going for weeks without a good shave, it may be a sign that you’re not getting enough action, or that you don’t care much about it anymore. As for the gentlemen, if you no longer make an effort to smell and feel clean, it may be a sign that you don’t care what happens in the bedroom. Well its summer time and we should all feel alright and make sure we are always ready for action.
Intimacy should not feel like a job it should happen naturally one should not feel compelled to have sex but rather look forward to each encounter because it is magical.
I mean if having sex is just another thing on your “to-do” list or if you are happy after you have had sex because you have accomplished another task for the day and can move on to the next chore, then it’s a sign that you don’t see it as something fun and hot, but as just another part of your daily routine.
You will not be able to put passion back into your relationship if you’re walking around in some old baggy and saggy pair of pleated jeans and haven’t bathed all day. If you want to start feeling romantic again, it’s important that you and your partner look ready for romance or even for some loving and steamy sexual encounter.
Clean up nicely or think of ways that can get him all sweaty with anticipation, you can start the evening with bathing together soaking in the tub while you tease each other then take it to bed and take turns to massage each other while you are getting temperatures all turned up.
While you are at it make sure everything is done to perfection, I always encourage people to talk about everything that turns them on and what they like.
It should not be like playing scrabble or one of those just do it and get over and done with it but rather it should be enjoyable. Women always complain about being shortchanged as it feels like a “bang thank you maam”, make sure you enjoy it until the last drop so that you are not grumpy after you feel used because you did not orgasm. I think its old fashioned to be a log and think it is only the man who has to enjoy sex everytime play your part and make sure it all works out for you. Try out all positions and new things and create your own fantasy. Orgasms are good for your health! They lower a woman’s risk of heart disease, stroke, breast cancer and even depression. So have sex and get happy! Till next week let’s keep talking email
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