Our sexuality is about God

Pastor Kilton Moyo

THIS is an open letter to Africa as she searches for ways to deal with challenges resulting from her sexual conduct.
My Dear Africa!

To all who are in Africa, beloved of God, grace to you and peace from God our Father and our Lord Jesus Christ. I cannot remember any period in our history when we were never faced with a crisis. For the sake of space, I cannot remind you here of the crisis that we have faced before and have overcome. We seem to be having a greater crisis now than any before. It is what I call the Sexual Crisis which has the power to depress and confuse further our economic, political, cultural, social and religious spheres.

We are in a crisis beloved when our sexual conduct brings us so much pain as we currently are going through. Is it not a crisis when we are confused and we can no longer tell who is male and who is female? Is it not a crisis when we have the highest rate of adolescent pregnancies in the whole world? Is it not a crisis when we have the highest abortion rate in the world? It is said that between 2003 and 2008, abortion cases rose to 6,5 million in the continent, representing at least 1,3 million a year in five years.

I wonder what the statistics are currently. Our expression of our sexuality has brought us the crisis we face. Let me not talk of the divorce rate, child marriages, rape, incest, bestiality, prostitution, same sex marriages and many more, needless to remind you that you are living in constant fear now of same sex marriages being forced down your throat as human right madness.

Considering the begging mindset in Africa, I am not sure if we can resist beyond this far. All these are giving us a clear feedback that something has drastically gone wrong with our sexuality, our sexual conduct and mindset and hence we have a crisis on our hands.

We can no longer ignore this if Africa is to develop and come out of her colonial past shame. Our current sexual attitude is meant to finish us and hit the last nail on the coffin of our aspirations as a continent. Beloved, true development of a people is not necessarily having money in the pocket, having nice roads, changing political leaders every five years and doing as you please. True development begins and ends with moral uprightness, for God says that righteousness exalts a nation.

I seek to remind you therefore, of one truth today and if we can embrace this, we have won. The truth you know shall set you free. The truth is clear. Our sexuality is about God and not us. All humanity is the creation of God. It is He who made us male and female and put in us the sexual passions and desires and gave us intercourse to relieve these. Sexual intercourse is not wrong and is not sin and was never meant to kill or harm anyone. It is God-made. Its purpose is to honour God. We were and are to use it and do it to honour our Creator. It is first and foremost for His glory and not us. We are stewards and recipients and we can only do it and understand it from His perspective because He created it.

It is therefore my taking that our sexuality must honour and please God. While we seek ways to minimise infections, we must also be seeking the way to deal with these practices. The way we express our sexuality must therefore be in accordance with His will for us concerning our sexuality. It was never meant to be a crisis or to bring pain, shame and so much death and heartaches to us. On its own, sex is still holy, pure and with same purpose as it was when the Lord first created it.

What has gone wrong is our expression of our sexuality and our carnal passions for it. The recklessness, carnality; corruption and selfishness we have brought into this pure God given joy have given us this crisis. Because of these, what was meant for our blessing, refreshment, joy and excitement has become a death trap and a shame.

Beloved Africa, hear me today. It is the way we have sex that has brought us to where we are. Let us face the brutal facts if we are to overcome. Our sexuality has nothing to do with our human cultures and traditions. These did not create sex. We are better off understanding sex and sexuality from the point of view of the Creator, God Himself. What does God say about our sexuality? What does God say about our sexual conduct and our way of having sex? This is where the solution lies. This is where victory lies.

Unless we all get there, the crisis shall deepen. Beloved, there is “The Way” of God for our sexuality and we need all of us to come to that Way. I pray that in all our endeavors to contain the crisis, we will be bold enough to challenge each other until we have come back to our senses and embraced the way of God for our sexuality. I have written to you in the past weeks about this one way, Abstinence and Faithfulness. This is the way to go my beloved. I put my resources into these and teaching, training and encouraging our people on these must be our greatest undertaking.

I fully understand that the world cannot sponsor the Way of God. Men want to prove their craftiness no matter how temporary these may be, but let us not be fooled beyond this. Let us not waste lives and resources experimenting when God gave us the way. I call on you Africa to get back to the ways of God for the sake of the coming generations and our future. Our sexuality is about God. Unless we embrace this truth, we remain embattled and in trouble. Our sexuality must be God-centred and Gospel shaped.

Africa will be saved. “Not by might or by power but by my Spirit,” says the Lord.

Kilton Moyo is creator of Fruitful Marriages, a renewal and enrichment programme and is pastor, counsellor and author of The Sex Trap. Call or WhatsApp on +263775337207, +263772610103 or +263712384841. [email protected]