The Sunday News
Hi Sis Noe
I AM a man and I have breasts. I want to lose them — what do I do? I have been to the gym but nothing seems to be working. I have even taken supplements. I am not fat or overweight. — Help.
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Your breasts are probably caused by one of two things: gynecomastia or psuedogynecomastia. Psuedogynecomastia is just a fancy name for any extra fat men may have on their chests. On the other hand, gynecomastia is a condition that can cause a firm, breast-like tissue to develop on a man’s chest, usually as a result of changes in their hormones during puberty or as they age. Gynecomastia is very common in teenage boys, and sometimes resolves itself within three months to three years. In rare cases, gynecomastia can be caused by legal or illegal drugs, tumours, or disease. If you think you might have gynecomastia, you may want to make an appointment with your doctor, who can help you determine the cause and the appropriate treatment. If you think your boobs are the result of normal, extra fat on your pectoral muscles, you might want to think about introducing exercise and nutrition into your daily routine. There is no timetable regarding how long it will take to get your chest in tip-top shape, but working out and eating better may make you feel better about the way you look. Making exercise and good nutrition a part of your everyday life is also a far healthier option than taking fat loss supplements. Recent research suggests that supplements such as Cuts are only a quick fix that will probably not work in the first place.
Hi Sis Noe
I am an 18-year-old girl and I was wondering what I must do to get curves. — Curious.
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Curves may be attained in different ways, some of which are more beneficial to health than others. Many have become quite round by eating too many calories and not exercising regularly. Excess weight increases the risk of diseases, including heart disease, diabetes, pregnancy complications, and depression. This roundness may not be the kind of curves you are talking about, I think. Perhaps you are talking about having a more womanly figure; maybe more ample breasts, hips, and/or a plumper posterior. One way to gain curves is by working specific muscle groups in the areas you would like to shape. Eating a well-balanced diet can help, too. With that being said, it’s also important to be realistic about the way your body is currently shaped, the shapes that are predominant in your family, and the way you want to look. If you wear baggy clothing, it may de-emphasise whatever curves you already have. Buying clothes that amplify your curves can help. More than anything though, it’s important to love your body in its natural form. Remind yourself about the features you do like about your body and accentuate those. You may find that changing your dress size isn’t what makes the biggest difference.
Hi Sis Noe
I don’t know what is wrong with me but I seem to get aroused when I am on my periods a lot. Is this normal? — Worried.
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Women of reproductive age report fluctuations in their sex drive throughout their menstrual cycle. This well-researched topic of interest has resulted in conflicting information, making it difficult to reach definitive conclusions. The most well-known biological theory is that women feel their sex drive kick into highest gear during ovulation at mid-cycle, approximately 14 days before they get their next period. While some women get mood swings, cramps and low libido during periods you belong to the other group that gets highly aroused during menstruation. The possibility of pregnancy is reduced (but not eliminated) during menstruation, and this may free women to feel more sexual during this time. Also, there is more pelvic congestion during a woman’s periods, so she is already experiencing this heaviness, which may trigger or translate to arousal. Furthermore, because of the periods, there is additional lubrication, making penetration more comfortable.
Hi Sis Noe
My husband’s organ is erect most of the time. My question is it because I am not giving him enough sex? — Worried.
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Just because you have bought beer doesn’t mean you are going to drink it — in other words men can get erections without feeling sexually excited. These spontaneous erections, are perfectly normal and common, popping up when guys are eating dinner, are called on in class, riding a bike, watching a movie, reading, sleeping, talking with grandma, or doing just about anything else. The majority of the time they will go away on their own, usually within a few minutes. Sometimes the feel of a new pair of underwear or a deep sense of relaxation can cause an erection, but more often than not, hormones are at the root of unexpected hard-ons. When boys go through puberty, hormones surge in their bodies and cause erections that are not under their control; these spontaneous erections decrease in frequency with age. Likewise, it is also possible for men to desire sexual contact and not have erections. Both situations are perfectly natural and may occur throughout the life-cycle. There are many factors that influence both erections and sexual desire. Many men will discover a pattern over time. The hormonal influence causing spontaneous erections can make it difficult for you to see patterns. So stop worrying — your husband’s organ has a mind of its own. I am sure you satisfy him.
Hi Sis Noe
I have a problem Sis Noe, it makes me embarrassed. When having sex with my boyfriend my organ makes a sound as if I am farting. — Ashamed.
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Vaginal farts occur when air gets into your organ during arousal, penetration, and even exercise. During arousal, the vagina lengthens and the uterus moves, creating more air space. Often, the farting sound occurs when the walls of the vagina and uterus return to their unaroused positions. Extra lube may make the difference. You also may want to stay away from certain positions for a while, to spare yourself the embarrassment. Your other option is to just laugh about it and say your vagina is complaining or something.
Hi Sis Noe
My boyfriend is silent during sex, he doesn’t even make a sound. Does that mean he is not enjoying? — Worried.
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Not everyone makes a commotion at climax; it’s possible to remain silent while stimulated, including at orgasm time. Although he may not express himself verbally, inside your boyfriend may be panting, moaning, and yelling your name, but keeps his mouth shut for fear of letting anyone within earshot in on what is going down. Many people — especially when young — are taught that sexual activities are best kept secret. This belief remains with many adults long after mom or dad would ever catch us in a sex act, but is powerful enough to keep us quiet for a long time. His stillness and apparent lack of reaction could also come from feeling nervous, tense, or uncomfortable with part or all of what is going on. It’s definitely nice to know how your partner is feeling during sex, so how might you turn up the volume on what he thinks about your intimate times? You could ask him and talk about all this together. If you approach this subject with him in a calm, supportive way, he might see that it’s okay, and even hot and helpful, to talk about this personal stuff with you. Such talk may not produce more audible and observable pleasure, but you might gain insight that makes this alright.
Hi Sis Noe
Is there something called too much sex? I love sex a lot and I have it lots of times but I am beginning to think that it’s bad for me. Should I take a break? — Worried.
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There is no magic number that screams that’s enough sex let’s take a break! In my book there’s nothing called too much sex. Religion, culture, family values, and personal feelings and choice help define what each individual considers enough or too much sex. The question to consider is this: what makes you think your stats are off the charts? It sounds as if you are beginning to consider too much sex a bad thing. What is bad about it? Is it bad because it’s unhealthy? Because your skin is tender? Because you are neglecting your education or work? Are you still eating and sleeping? Are you answering the mail and phone? Seeing your friends? Having fun? You need to begin this process by answering these questions, defining what YOU might consider to be too much, and also identifying what’s BAD about it. It is widely accepted that if “too much sex” means many different partners, then there are some specific risks to consider (STIs, HIV, etc). This kind of sex is definitely too much. If this too much sex is just between you and your partner then I don’t see why you should stop. Unless your sexual behaviour is interfering with your daily routine, it is likely that you and your partner have high sex drives and enjoy having sex together during this time period. Good for you! Once you figure out or feel more comfortable with the frequency of your sex sessions, you and your partner won’t need to take a mini vacation from them.
