Sis Noe

by Sunday News Online | Sunday, Aug 2, 2015 | 2233 views

Hi Sis Noe
I AM five months pregnant and still having sex with my husband. I want to know when I must stop. I don’t want to hurt my baby. — Curious.
Reply
Most women who are having a normal pregnancy can continue to have sex right up until their water breaks or they go into labour. You won’t hurt the baby by making love. The amniotic sac and the strong muscles of the uterus protect your baby, and the thick mucus plug that seals the cervix helps guard against infection. And while orgasm may cause mild uterine contractions (as can nipple stimulation and the prostaglandins in semen); they are generally temporary and harmless. There are many reasons why sex during pregnancy can be more enjoyable, even if you are doing it less. There is an increase in vaginal lubrication, the engorgement of the genital area helps some people become orgasmic for the first time or multi-orgasmic, the lack of birth control, or if you have been trying for a while, a return to pleasurable sex as opposed to pro-creational. There are some circumstances, though, in which you may need to modify your activity or abstain from sex altogether for part or all of your pregnancy. Your midwife or doctor should let you know whether you have any complications that make sex a no no. If you’re uncertain, ask your practitioner.

Hi Sis Noe
I am 13 years old and three months ago I had my first period but the following two months I have not had any. What’s wrong with me? — Worried.
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When you first start your periods they are likely to be irregular. It’s common and normal for you to have one and then not have another for a couple of months, or for them to arrive after three, four, five or six weeks. They will probably be all over the place for the first two years. Of course, periods will stop if you have sex and fall pregnant or if you are dieting too much. But if you are eating healthily and haven’t risked pregnancy, then it’s simply the natural pattern. You don’t have to do anything to start them again — they will, in good time.

Hi Sis Noe
I have a boyfriend. I am 18 and he is 20. He fights with me when he sees me talking to a guy. — Help.
Reply
Your boyfriend is too possessive. He should desist from controlling you before this thing gets too far. He has no right dictating who you should or should not talk to. Any relationship is premised on trust, if he does not trust you to the extent of not wanting you to talk to any other man before you are married, picture what will happen when you become husband and wife. Unless you have done something to earn the distrust, you need to sit down with him and make it clear in no uncertain terms that you are free to talk to anybody and if he cannot stomach that he should look elsewhere.

Hi Sis Noe
What are the dangers of having anal sex? — Curious.
Reply
Anal sex is defined as an act in which the penis is inserted into the anus of a sexual partner. In my words it involves trying to prevent a partner from defecating by pushing faeces back into the rectum. Disgusting isn’t it? Such a description of anal sex is deliberate because I don’t want you to do it. Anal sex carries an elevated risk of passing on diseases because the anal sphincter is delicate, easily-torn tissue; a tear can provide an entry for pathogens. The high concentration of white blood cells around the rectum, together with the risk of tearing and the rectum’s function to absorb fluid, places those who engage in unprotected anal sex at high risk of sexually transmitted infections. It increases the risk of anal cancer, anal warts and STIs. It can result in Hepatitis A which is a viral infection that can cause jaundice and abdominal pain. There is also the risk of Hepatitis C which is a progressive and sometimes fatal chronic liver disease. It can lead to serious kidney infection. Most gravely there is no doubt that anal intercourse carries a greater risk of transmission of HIV than other sexual activities, particularly for the receptive partner. It is theoretically possible that frequent or vigorous anal sex could put undue pressure on the posterior (back) vaginal wall. This could lead to an increased risk for passing gas (farting) or even to anal continence problems.

Hi Sis Noe
I shaved my pubic hair off now I have pimples on my groin area. What could it be? — Worried.
Reply
It is probably folliculitis. This condition occurs when hairs become ingrown under the skin instead of growing out. Skin bacteria may infect the area and you get these little red pimple-like bumps that have white dots on top, just like little zits. It is not a big deal; it would have gone away on its own after a few days had you not scratched it. Look for an antibiotic cream and apply on the area but it is not necessary as this is a self-limiting condition. If your condition persists, you may see a doctor for an antibiotic but I don’t think it will. Razors are nasty because they are very likely to make ingrown hairs as they cut the hair causing it to get stuck under the skin. Next time use a shaving machine and instead of removing all the pubic hair trim it.

Hi Sis Noe
My girlfriend is older than me by three years. We love each other and the age gap is not an issue but people are talking Sis Noe. They are criticising our relationship and they are saying we can’t be a married couple. Is it true that we can’t have a life together? — Help.
Reply
Generally people have a problem with a man dating an older girl because they believe the girl is taking advantage of the “boy”. They believe that the “boy” is being used. But I am not for that if the age difference is not much. I don’t think three years is much, so if you love each other keep on doing so, you have done nothing wrong. The age difference totally depends on a couple and their maturity levels but those not in the situation are always going to have a problem with the older-girl-younger-man issue. I am staying away from that logical fallacy because the best is to judge each person individually. Having an older girl is good for stability in any relationship. Just make sure to know your woman really well and know her intentions.

Hi Sis Noe
I am thin and I hate that because it’s difficult to find clothes that fit and look nice on me. I went to the doctor and he said there was nothing wrong with me but still I am bothered by my weight. — Worried.
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What you need to adjust is not your weight but your state of mind. Being lightweight is not an issue; the issue is that you lack confidence in all aspects of life. You don’t need to gain weight to enjoy your life. You need to be always positive. While you fret about gaining weight some people envy your body, they want to lose weight but they are frustrated by the gruelling weight loss exercises they have to do. Learn to love yourself and stop looking at other people. I am compelled to suspect that you are obsessed about gaining weight because of societal expectations. Are your friends telling you that you are not healthy? Definitely something needs to be adjusted but it’s not your weight. Accept who you are and turn your back to the mirror, maybe its lying to you. There are more important things in life to worry about than the size of your dress.

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