Sis Noe

Hi Sis Noe
I AM looking for a good man who will love me and be faithful. I am 19, the man must be 22 to 26.

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I am a guy aged 24 looking for a girl aged 18 to 25.
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I am a man aged 35 and I have one child.

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I am looking for a woman aged 20 to 27 with no child.

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I have 3 children and I am looking for a serious man to marry. He must be 40 and above and HIV negative.

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I am a lady aged 25 and I need a man aged 27 and older for a serious relationship.

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I am a woman aged 27 and I stay in Bulawayo. I need a man who wants a serious relationship.

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I am a divorced man aged 34 and I need a lady to marry around Bulawayo.

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I am a woman aged 30 looking for a man who is serious. I am HIV positive.

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I am a lady aged 26 and HIV positive. I need a man aged 30 to 33 who wants to settle down. I stay in Gwanda.

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I am a woman aged 26 and I stay in Gwabalanda. I am HIV positive, I need a man aged 26 to 32.

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I am a mother of two aged 26 in Zvishavane. I need a man aged 32 to 38.

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I am a man aged 30 looking for a woman who wants marriage.

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I am a single mother aged 37 in Bulawayo. I need a man.

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I am a girl aged 23 looking for an HIV positive man with one child.

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I am a single lady aged 41 and I am looking for a man aged 46 and older.

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I am a mother of three aged 29 and I need a man aged 30 to 35. I am based in Bulawayo.

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I am a lady aged 33, HIV positive and in need of a man of the same status.
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Please WhatsApp for the numbers of the people above if you are interested.

Hi Sis Noe
My husband only has sex with me when he is drunk. He tells me I am ugly and undesirable so alcohol gives him the courage to sleep with me. I am hurt. I want to be in a normal relationship. What should I do? — Hurt.
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It is vital that you talk to your husband, away from the bedroom and when he is stone-cold sober, about how much he is hurting you. He has to understand that you have your dignity and your own needs, and these simply are not being considered. If drinking gives him confidence, suggest some early nights and try getting back to basics. But if he is really not bothered about your feelings and thinks that excessive alcohol affords him the right to behave any way he likes, I suggest you talk seriously about where this marriage is headed.

Hi Sis Noe
My boyfriend wants us to have sex twice a day. It’s too much for me but he doesn’t understand. He told me he would hire a prostitute if I don’t satisfy him in bed. I used to enjoy sex but because of this I don’t anymore. — Worried.
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When he said he would hire a prostitute I hope he was drunk or momentarily mad because such a threat cannot be taken lightly. I don’t see how you can come back from being threatened like this. Clearly you are willing to negotiate with your partner, but it takes two to reach an agreement and if he refuses to compromise then why are you still with him? If you really think this relationship deserves a second chance, talk to him away from the bedroom and make it clear that you are a human being with feelings and limitations. Suggest a contract whereby you have sex every other day. If that is not good enough for him, think very carefully about your sexual health, your mental wellbeing and your future with a partner who only seems to care about himself. On the other hand, I don’t think sex twice a day is too much, unless you are not into it. Have days where you give in to his demands.

Hi Sis Noe
I am having an affair with my ex-husband. I know he will never leave his wife for me because we are not well-matched but we are together because the sex is good. My problem is that he works outside the city and I only see him once a month. — Lonely.
Help
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If a single person is involved with someone who is married, the affair tends to be conducted on the latter’s terms. So they can only see you when they are able to slip away from their spouse without causing suspicion. They usually have to rush back to work or home after a few hours of passionate sex. They can never go on holiday or spend important dates together such as birthdays and Christmas. If you do go out together, it has to be some distance from home and there is always the fear that you will be seen, and many are caught out this way. Some promise to leave their marriage but never quite get around to it.
Others make it clear from the beginning that they will never leave their spouse. You are not being fair to his wife or to yourself. It would be much wiser to end the affair and find someone who is free to have a relationship with you. And just because he is your ex-husband doesn’t mean it’s right to be with him.

Hi Sis Noe
I want to know if it is possible to get pregnant from that liquid that comes out when a man is aroused. I don’t mean sperms but that colourless liquid that comes out when a penis is erect. — Worried.
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That liquid is called pre-ejaculate or pre-cum in slang.
When some men are sexually aroused, pre-cum may be visible as a clear liquid at the tip of the penis. Pre-cum is an alkaline fluid released by the Cowper glands, which are located at the top of a man’s urethra, just below the prostate. Pre-cum helps neutralise the urethra’s acidity, protecting sperm that will pass through the urethra during ejaculation.
Yes, it is possible to get pregnant from pre-ejaculate under certain circumstances, but the chances are quite low. Pre-cum does not contain sperm; however, sperm left behind from a previous ejaculation come out with the pre-ejaculate, leading to fertilisation.
After ejaculation, whether by masturbation or sex with a partner, sperm may be left over in the urethra, the tube that semen travels through. Urinating between ejaculations flushes the urethra of these leftover sperms and clears the way for pre-cum. Even if pregnancy from pre-cum is not an immediate concern, the risk of a sexually transmitted infection (STI) is. Using condoms can help reduce the risk of STI transmission as well as pregnancy.

Hi Sis Noe
During sex I don’t get wet enough and my boyfriend and I end up bruised on our sexual organs. I have also never experienced an orgasm. — Worried.
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Your dry vagina can be caused by not being aroused enough before sex or not wanting sex at all. Your man might be penetrating you before you are ready or maybe you are stressed. Maybe you are taking certain contraceptives that cause dryness such as the Pill and Depo-Provera. Having an infection can also cause this. You could visit a doctor to find out what is wrong with you. In the meantime you can use lubrication to make yourself wet so that you avoid the painful sex you are having. As for orgasm, every woman’s experience of orgasm is different. While some women experience powerful orgasms that feel like clear events, other women experience orgasm that is quite mild. Nearly all women appear to be capable of experiencing orgasm, but it can take some time, practice and exploration alone and/or with a partner to develop some ease with orgasm.