The Sunday News
Auntie Charity
THIS week I received the most interesting mail ever, as one man claimed that his wife is not lovable and he needed help on how to learn to love her. I asked him if there was a person who was not lovable and how he made her his wife. His story was shocking but that will be an article for another day.
So this week I have decided our column will be to discuss how to be lovable, seeing as there are claims that some people are not lovable.
Every woman wants to get the man of their dreams and to be able to achieve this; one must be lovable.
Being loveable seems hard but it is not impossible to be liked and loved by people around you including men.
With the right traits and attitude you can become the lovable woman every man wants to be with.
Every woman can be likeable and lovable. Please note, I am not coming up with the whole women should be this and not that because one time I was accused of having joined “them” but I am merely trying to help us women to be lovable.
Women are naturally beautiful souls I know, and the most amazing people who are easy to love and can also love with ease, although at times we turn out to be nasty and in most cases because of past experiences. So as a woman you can try and be the nicest person that you can be, I mean being nice is a good trait that attracts people including our very own men. Women being delicate and feminine are expected to be nice and it is great to be nice because nice people tend to attract people who are also nice so if you are still on the treasure hunt, try to be nice and who knows you might attract a Mr Nice.
Treat other people the way you treat your best friend or loved ones because I for one know that as women we are sensitive when it comes to our friends and can be quite protective because we love our friends.
Please can you by all means try not to gossip, do not insult people, do not pick on them and do not be rude for whatever reason.
Women should have those motherly instincts of being nice and caring, so live up to what women should be. To become a lovable woman, you have to be the nicest person that you can be.
One of the lovable traits on a woman is a smile although life can be cruel sometimes; do not let mishaps and unfortunate things stop you from wearing a great smile.
No matter what the situation is, a woman needs to wear a smile if she wants to be lovable.
You do not know what a simple smile can do to other people, it melts even the hardest and cruellest of hearts.
Someone having a bad day could realise that life is not that bad if someone as nice as you took a moment to give him a great smile.
A smile is a universal language that could send a message before you even open your mouth to say anything.
A person who always wears a smile will always be perceived as a friendly and approachable person.
There is nothing more loveable than a woman who is friendly and approachable. So if you want to become a lovable woman, show those beautiful teeth and smile.
Being deeply loved by someone gives you a great feeling, while loving someone deeply completes your life and makes you smile each time you think of them.
Being married to someone for whatever reason means that you made a vow to love them till the end of time and so you have to stay true to your vows.
Love is a complex thing and no one is ever taught how to love, it comes naturally.
Science too can never explain how and why love happens, but being in love does not mean things will always be good but it means it is always good to know that there is someone who loves you.
First of all as humans we cannot control our feelings towards another person, I mean pure obsessing love.
I have often heard people; women to be precise, say that love is the answer to all our problems. But I always ask if it is not the main cause of them all? I must say though that I have seen love do a lot of things in life in both a positive and negative way.
Love has always moved barriers; it has made people change to be good or bad.
Love can be both, it can be good, it can even work as a remedy for your personal problems and make you have a brighter perspective of life, yet sadly it can also be extremely bad for you.
It can be horrible for your everyday routine since a slight change of mood given to love reasons can turn an awesome day into a not so awesome one.
However, as I mentioned before, we are just human beings and we do not own a switch that can turn us into emotionless beings, but in all honesty I think that would be the most amazing invention ever.
Until then let us be lovable human beings and treat each other with love and respect.
Till next week, let’s keep talking — email [email protected]
