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Hi Sis Noe
I am worried that my penis is too small to satisfy a woman. No woman has ever complained, but I can’t help but think that I have a tiny penis. Help
Reply
The size of a man’s penis is an objective concern for intercourse only in the case of small penis syndrome. In fact, the average erect penis is a lot smaller than hitherto thought, and men worry due to erroneous information on the subject. For years medical books reported that the average erect penis was 5,88 inches long, leading a lot of men to worry about their size. This figure, however, was the result of self-measurement, which is notoriously unreliable. Research based on actual measurement suggests that the average erect penis is 5,2 inches long. That’s just a bit longer than 13 cm — a lot shorter than most people’s hands, measured from the wrist to the end of the middle finger. If no woman has complained about the size of your penis then you need not worry, it is big enough to satisfy your partner, otherwise a few women would have complained.
Hi Sis Noe
Since I gave birth I don’t feel my man’s penis, he does not satisfy me. I fear that my vagina is now too big for him. Please help.
Reply
After giving birth vaginally, it’s normal for the vagina to be larger than it was before, and this effect generally is more pronounced after the birth of a large baby. This is caused by relaxation of the pelvic floor musculature. These muscles will lose their tone with each successive birth, although pelvic floor exercises known as Kegels can help you tighten them up. Tighten the muscles at the front lower part of your body as if you are stopping yourself from urinating and adopt this hold for 10 seconds then relax and repeat and keep up for five minutes. Do these four times a day. Some women are not comfortable with exercise and that’s their choice but if you really want to help yourself and keep the muscles strong then the pelvic floor muscle exercises are ideal. Since this includes the muscle that you use to stop and start the flow of urine, you can check if you’ve identified the right muscle by testing your Kegel technique while urinating — if you can stop the flow of urine when tightening, then you know that you are contracting the correct muscle. But don’t actually do your exercises while urinating; just use that to check your technique. Sexual pleasures will become more intense as the muscles become more elastic and stronger. These exercises improve the bladder so that you will not leak urine. However, your vagina will not actually become smaller but the opening will be tighter and you will feel his penis like never before.
Hi Sis Noe
I love my husband but I am not sure if he loves me, simply because he does not care about my emotional and sexual needs. The sex we have satisfies him, not me. I have told him this but nothing has changed.
Reply
Sadly, it sounds as though your husband has become an increasingly selfish and uninterested lover. It is hard to imagine how your sex life has made you feel, given that your husband does not know what you enjoy or what gives you pleasure. Understanding this about your partner is an essential part of any loving relationship — and it should always work both ways. If a couple do not explore what each enjoys, then one or both tend to lose interest in their sexual relationship and are often tempted to look elsewhere. I know this is tough, but I think you need to talk to your husband and ask him if he still loves you and whether he truly wants this marriage to work or is just staying for the children or financial reasons. If you both want to stay in the marriage, talk about why you feel you are drifting apart and discuss what changes you both wish to see in your relationship — including your sex life. I hope that once you feel closer to one another your sex life will improve. Alternatively, if he has fallen out of love then perhaps he is no longer the man for you.
