The Sunday News
Hi Sis Noe
IS it safe to keep condoms in my wallet? — Curious.
A condom stored in a wallet may be damaged by lots of things. The constant bending and friction caused by sitting and moving, as well as long exposure to your body heat, can cause a condom to deteriorate. Extreme heat or freezing cold can make the condom brittle and weak.
Even if the packaging and the condom look fine when opened, there might still be microscopic holes and tears that make it less effective in preventing unwanted pregnancy and the transmission of sexually transmitted infections. For best results, store condoms in a cool, dry, dark place. It might be better to keep them in your bedside drawer, rather than in your back pocket.
Even if it has been stored in a safe way, when in doubt throw it out and get a new one. You can reduce the chance of using a damaged condom by regularly replacing your stash of condoms and keeping an eye on the expiration date. You can also lower the risk of STIs and pregnancy by making sure it’s put on properly.
Hi Sis Noe
I had a miscarriage more than a week ago and since that time I keep vomiting night and day. What is wrong with me? — Worried.
Although vomiting is a typical symptom of miscarriage, it usually doesn’t last more than three days. In order to rule out any other health concerns that may be causing the nausea, it’s best to contact your doctor. You have not mentioned whether or not a health care provider has diagnosed your miscarriage; if you have not yet sought care for your miscarriage, I strongly advise you to seek out medical care as soon as possible to rule out any potential infections or other conditions that may be causing the nausea and vomiting.
The variety of factors that cause miscarriages may contribute to the length of your symptoms as could some of the miscarriage treatments, so working with a professional to determine what is going on may help you figure out why you are still vomiting. Miscarriage is relatively common, with 15 to 20 percent of pregnancies estimated to end in miscarriage.
One reason you may be feeling this way is that it’s possible the pregnancy hormones called human chorionic gonadotropin (HCG) are still in your body. These hormones may continue to be there from 12 to 16 days after a miscarriage, depending on how far along you were into your pregnancy.
Hi Sis Noe
I am 20 and have a boyfriend who is double-crossing me but I still love him. What can I do? I am confused. — Cheated.
You don’t need to be so tolerant and you don’t need to spare his feelings either. Tell him you know what he did or what he is doing, tell him you are through, and tell him never to talk to you again. Then move on and never spare another thought for the guy. Frankly if you don’t want any more heartache from this guy, you really need to stop and think what you are sacrificing your happiness for.
I understand your confusion and reluctance to move on — but know this — it’s not about love — you are just afraid of being alone. You are addicted to the hurt and the drama. But you are better off without him. Trust me, months from now after you have left him you will realise it was the best decision of your life. He is not worth it.
You know what hurts this kind of person the most? Dropping him like a hot potato and never looking back. Don’t even spend another full sentence on him. To know that he is worth so little that you can walk away without a word, without even showing how upset you are? That is going to sting. If you answer up the phone and find it’s him, hang up right away. Get a message from him? Delete it as soon as you see it. Get an email? Delete without reading it. The real point besides making him feel bad, of course, is that you get to live your life, be happy again, and stop wasting time on this guy.
Hi Sis Noe
I have a girlfriend and I think she is lying to me that she is a virgin, how do I know without having sex with her? — Worried.
I am bothered by your attitude that makes your girlfriend’s virginity a big part of what makes you love her. That instantly brings to mind the question what if she told you when she first met you that she wasn’t a virgin? Would you not have been in a relationship with her? To be honest with you — a person’s virginity is their own business. I don’t think your girlfriend has to tell you whether or not she is a virgin because it ultimately comes down to being none of your business. You have to realise, she had a life before you came along, and she will have a life long after you leave — just as you did and you will.
But, if you open up with each other and share your past sexual history with one another, then I think you should trust your girlfriend enough to believe that she is telling you the truth. And if she has told you that she is still a virgin you should believe her. You should have that amount of trust in your relationship. But you deserve an answer to your question. If the hymen is completely intact, it is very possible that the person is still a virgin. If it is not, then it is impossible to know. There are women born without hymens and the hymen can break from any kind of physical activity.