Hi Sis Noe
MY husband has a very small organ. He does not satisfy me during sex. I do not feel him at all. It is very frustrating and hurting our marriage. I don’t know what to do. I love him. — Frustrated.
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Whatever you do, don’t tell your man that the size of his penis is ruining your sex life. That would not go well or help the situation in any way. That would be like your husband picking the one thing you are super insecure about, and telling you that that one thing is ruining his ability to get turned on. It wouldn’t feel good, right? No, I doubt it would. Just like there are some things a lot of women are insecure about, there are things a lot of guys are insecure about. The biggest thing is their penis size.
And if your man is already aware that his penis is small, it’s definitely something that he does not feel great about. Having you telling him that he is useless in bed is going to make him feel even worse. The truth is, while penis size is important to some people, it should not be something that makes or break your sex life. You may just need to try something different. Here are some tips for spicing up your sex life so that you can both feel good. Start with a lot of foreplay. Foreplay is always great before sex, but it’s even more important in this situation. It can be anything that turns both of you on, whether that’s doing things with your hands or oral sex. When you are actually having sex, try different positions. Some people say that women should go be on top in these situations, because you have more control to stimulate the clitoris. Play around to find what works for you.
Hi Sis Noe
My girlfriend’s private parts are smelly and it turns me off. — Help.
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If you really like her and you want to possibly have a longstanding relationship with her, then you should get to the difficult part. This is a communication issue. This is about being able to tell her that she has a problem, but it’s not her fault — in a way that is not hurtful or not offensive in any way, shape or form. But be warned, no matter how you sugar coat the issue, she is still going to react badly because no matter how loving and sweet you are to her, she will still be hurt. But you have to tell her.
Good luck.
Hi Sis Noe
When I have sex with my boyfriend I fake orgasms all the time. Do you think it’s a good idea to keep faking? We have been together for three years. — Worried.
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I definitely do not support the idea of faking an orgasm. I think it teaches negative sexual habits — your boyfriend will be led to believe whatever he did to give you that “orgasm” was good and will thus continue to provide you with “orgasms”, when it doesn’t work. It’s just going to hurt you and your sex life in the long run. Plus, it’s lying and I’m a big fan of honesty. Without having any information beyond that you are having trouble orgasming and feel uncomfortable about it, all I can say is — what you are doing and what is happening with you is normal.
There are no rules. I understand why you want an orgasm, but it’s not going to come when are faking it all the time. That is counterproductive and damaging to the relationship. You need to communicate with your man — that’s the only way you can find a solution. Meanwhile, if you have been having sex with your partner for three years and it’s been an enjoyable experience despite the absence of an orgasm, think about why you have kept at it and the reasons why you enjoy it. I can’t imagine the only reason you have been having sex is to achieve an orgasm, because you have not had them, and you probably would have stopped having sex a long time ago. Figure out what it is that you enjoy and do that. Enjoy sex for the reasons that you like it.
Hi Sis Noe
I am 19 years old and I am sexually active. I am worried that I have an STD, I have pimples around my penis head. They are not painful though. — Worried.
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For a sexually active teen those small bumps on the penis head cause apprehension. You are undoubtedly worried about them. Thankfully, those bumps might not mean that you are infected. I suspect you have a condition called hirsuties papillaris genitalis, otherwise known as pearly penile papules. Pearly penile papules are small (1 to 2mm) round bumps that are attached to the rim of the head of the penis. These bumps can be the colour of the skin, translucent, white, yellow, or pink.
The bumps can sometimes go all the way around the rim of the head of the penis, and the bumps can form multiple rows around the head of the penis. They are completely normal and not a sign of infection or uncleanliness. They are not cancerous and are not precancerous lesions. Studies suggest that they occur more often in uncircumcised men than in circumcised men.
These papules tend to appear when a man is in his 20s or 30s, although they can occur in teen males. Because these bumps on the penis are not caused by an infection and are not painful or uncomfortable, they do not need to be treated or removed. If they are painful then I am afraid to say that you have an STI. Go and get treated.