Learn forgiveness

11 Feb, 2024 - 00:02 0 Views
Learn forgiveness

The Sunday News

Forgiveness means choosing to let go of your anger, hurt, and desire for vengeance.

You might accept that what happened is now in the past, recognise that people make mistakes, and begin cultivating compassion instead.

Forgiveness is hard, especially when you feel like you were significantly wronged.

But learning how to forgive will be highly beneficial to your mental health in the long run.

There are many unique perspectives of  forgiving. Here are tips on how to forgive;

Discuss the problem

Discussing the problem is very important. It helps  emptying your anger. It also helps to express your feelings to the other person.

Writing it down

This can be a helpful part of forgiving someone. It  may help to put your feelings into words as part of letting go.

Healing

Forgiveness helps you heal. Holding onto resentment can sour you and keep you from finding peace. When you can’t forgive, your emotional wounds can’t close and heal.

Letting it go

When you forgive, you’re not saying what someone did was OK. You’re deciding to let go the burden and unresolved emotions.

But not being able to forgive can harm you. “Forgiveness allows you to let go of pain and continue with a lighter heart.”

Forgiveness, in other words, enables you to begin moving away from anger and resentment before they seep into all areas of your life.

Benefits of Forgiving

Forgiveness helps reduce stress.  Less stress can have positive health outcomes, including: lower blood pressure ,reduced anxiety ,better sleep, improved self-esteem.

Forgiveness may also allow you to let go of unhealthy anger, which can contribute to stress muscle tension, heart problems, decreased immune function.

In general, forgiveness has an overall positive impact on emotional health, well-being, and empathy for others. Remember , everyone makes mistakes.

When a someone hurts you, forgiving them can open the door to relationship repair.

Forgiveness may not mend your relationship immediately, but it’s a good start.

Forgive yourself

Students often struggle with forgiveness when they blame themselves, at least in some small way, for what happened.

Self-compassion and self-forgiveness are important tools to have before trying to forgive someone else.

Remember, someone else’s decision to hurt you is never your fault.

If you have trouble forgiving yourself, particularly for circumstances where you did nothing wrong, prayer might also assist you.

Ask God to grant you power to overcome this situation.

Dr Manners Msongelwa/ +263771019392/ Author / Teacher / Youth Coach

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