The Sunday News
Hi Sis Noe
I HAVE a problem with men and I think all of them are dogs. After they sleep with you they dump you and say you have a loose vagina or something.
Then they move to their next victim. That is why we women decide to sleep with many men. They impregnate you and dump you. Why is it like that? — Worried.
Reply
You are one angry woman and in your anger you have described women in a derogatory manner. Some men when cursing women, are very disrespectful but you are doing just the same. As a woman, I did not expect you to describe women in the way you have done and I think you ought to be ashamed of yourself. According to you, when a man has affairs with other women it is because he is dissatisfied with the private parts of his partner.
That is foolishness. If you accept that to be true, it means that if your man goes out and has an affair, you are to blame because your private parts are not up to par. Now having said the above, it is true that some men take advantage of women and some women take advantage of men. There are some women who are bad and there are some men who are bad but every man’s character must be tested. Some men are smooth talkers and they would convince the most educated women to fall for them. But some women have studied men and will get much more out of men than what men will get out of them. If men and women would respect each other they wouldn’t abuse each other. But I have said it many times; most men do not respect women.
They are good beggars. They would get down on their knees and beg the women for sex. They may even shed tears and after the women have consented the tears would cease. When the women tell them that they are pregnant they disappear. Just be on guard — if you are used somehow it is your fault.
Hi Sis Noe
My husband is a mechanic and he does not love bathing. He accuses me of cheating because I always tell him I won’t sleep with him if he does not wash himself. — Frustrated.
Reply
No one should blame you if you leave this man. You shouldn’t be telling him to take a shower. How could he expect you to tolerate him going to bed without taking a bath? Leave the dirty man. He has no shame. It seems to me that you are putting your plans in place. Don’t let anybody try to talk you out of your plans. There are times when a woman has to move on and the same is true of a man. I wish you well. If he decides to take a shower you can stay.
Hi Sis Noe
I want to play with myself in front of my husband but I am afraid. Do you think he will like it. — Worried.
Reply
Some couples do different things to spice up their sex life. And this is one method some couples use. They tease each other, and when they believe they can’t resist each other, they go further. Some don’t even do penetration. They bring each other to orgasm by playing around with each other’s genitalia. I am telling you what I know. I am not here advocating or endorsing any method people use in spicing up their love life or their sex life. Frankly it’s none of my business. My advice is talk to your husband about this, he may like it, he may not.
Hi Sis Noe
I moved in with a widower and he takes care of all my needs. The problem is that he has pictures and clothes of his late wife in the bedroom. Besides that I am okay with him as he takes care of me and my children even though he has his own children. — Help.
Reply
You are living with this man and he is helping you with your children. You chose to live with him — whether he asked you or not to live with him, you made the decision. He is giving you food and shelter and, I am sure, money too. You know that his assets are not yours. They are for his children and him. The man still has the pictures of his late wife and her belongings in his room. That is not unusual. Many widowers have never removed the photographs of their deceased wives from their bedrooms and living rooms. That matrimonial bedroom means a lot to the man. If you don’t like it, then stew on it or leave — he is not removing them. If you were married to him, that would be a different matter. You would expect him to remove them, but right now those photographs remind him of the good old days. Create new memories for him — be a good woman — treat him right and he will remove them, eventually.
Hi Sis Noe
I have a problem, all the women I love cheat on me. One stole my money and ran off to South Africa, another one cheated and got pregnant even though I had found her poor, helped her get a job and bought clothes and shoes for her. These two are just a tip of the iceberg, I am unlucky in love. — Angry.
Reply
All the women you loved clearly lacked intelligence — they are stupid, idiots all of them. The one who stole money from you is a thief, but some would say that you ought to be blamed because you were careless with your money around her. You trusted her and she disappointed you, but don’t let that bother you. You have overcome that incident and you are wiser now. The money that she took from you is probably finished and she did not even put it to good use. I can bet my last dollar she is suffering in South Africa — she probably sleeps in a room divided by four curtains. It is amazing that the second woman did not consider that she had nothing and that you took her out of a very poor condition and helped her. You cleaned her up, dressed her up and made her very comfortable and attractive, and then she soiled herself and let you down. Stupidity has no ceiling! Why couldn’t she behave herself? The guy saw how well she looked and she lost control of herself and allowed him to have unprotected sex with her. On the other hand sir, why worry? If she did not get pregnant, you probably would never have known that she cheated on you, so fret not. I want you to try your best to love and respect the next woman you fall in love with. Don’t be rough on her. Don’t ever behave as if all women are the same, they are not. Some are genuine, but just about all of them love one thing and that is money, so make sure you take care of her. But don’t overspend — she is not your relative!
