The Sunday News
A FEW years ago, I met a very handsome man and fell in love with him. Every day was like a dream and a fairytale love story.
He really swept me off my feet.
In the middle of the night we had long phone conversations. Listening to his voice on the telephone was so sweet it would put me to sleep while still holding the receiver. “Hello, are you falling asleep on me dear?” I would respond “No,” just to keep him close. Other days he would do the same; “I’m falling asleep.” I would say, “Ok, get some rest” Everyday felt new, like a life I’ve never lived before. I felt like a grown little girl by the way he made me feel.
His intellect matched mine and that’s what opened up my heart. His handsome face was out of this world. He loved and respected himself which made him a rare breed. Right when I was sure that love didn’t exist anymore, he reminded me that love never dies. I can only hold great memories of this fantastic love. He came and went like an angel from the heavens. He brought things out of me that I forgot I had in me due to bad relationships. My talent became his everyday blessings. He healed the earth and many souls including mine.
Unfortunately, he broke my heart and crushed me into pieces and I had to take what he left me and heal myself and others with it. I treated him like a king BUT he gave his heart to someone else and moved on without telling me. Despite all that he had an innocent face and looked like a saint.
I was hurt, disappointed and out of anger I just told him that it was over. With an innocent look on his face, he said to me, “I am not cheating on you and after all this, is this how you choose to repay me by dumping me?” I became confused for a moment with how he was faking it all and trying to blame me. My love for him was strong and I tried to fight for him as I was still in denial but I failed because he could not hide the new love he had found and he finally admitted it.
I cried to God and asked Him why He allowed it to happen, I was bitter with God. I just gathered the courage to tell my family that the relationship was just a figment of my fictitious imagination and I picked up the pieces of my heart and sew them together.
If I had remained in that situation I would have not been where I am today and when I look back, I smile and see the reason why God allowed the heartbreak to happen. God closed that door because He was preparing me for greatness but too many times we focus so much on a closed door and miss the one that will be opening ahead of us. God wants to take you to Canaan but you are still in Egypt enjoying the pain and being a slave to pharaoh.
You see, to let go of someone we love is the hardest part of our lives. Sometimes no matter how hard we try to make our relationships work they don’t work out the way we want them to. Sometimes, despite all your efforts to make things work out breakups become inevitable.
Although it is a painful and heartbreaking to let go of someone whom you have loved with all your heart and soul, you cannot allow it to leave you shattered and depressed for the rest of your life. It is not about winning or losing. It is not about pride or ego. It is all about having the courage to accept change and the strength to overcome and move on. You have to become an alchemist of your heartbreak and turn it into a blessing.
Don’t grieve over a broken relationship because it was not meant to work out the way you wanted it. You can’t spend your life in the graveyard of guilt dealing with the corpses of the past. Know when things are dead, know when to release them and bury them. If you continue to work with the dry bones of dead issues, you too will begin to decay. No amount of work will resuscitate a corpse.
Just gather all your inner strength to move on and to face the new world waiting to be conquered by you. When you meet the one who deserves your heart and soul you will realise why you had to let go and set yourself free . . . When you move out of a relationship your heart and mind is filled up with so many memories that it makes it difficult to breathe.
It is agonising when you have to let go of a person whom you have loved with all your heart and soul. You place a person inside your heart with the only intention of keeping them there forever and don’t want to set them free. But they break the walls of your heart and force themselves out, ripping you apart, leaving you wounded.
It is true that heartbreak leaves your soul wounded for life if you don’t treat yourself properly, you have to turn your heartbreak into a blessing and move on because you cannot grieve all your life. In the end you will realise it is so worth it.
As a friend of mine once said, no matter how much you do for certain people they can never be satisfied. We give so much to those who don’t deserve it and do so little for the ones who are worth our time. There won’t always be sunshine, we have to face the storms sometimes and this is only meant to make us stronger. The unfortunate thing is we often make the same mistake three or more times before we finally learn from it.
However, never have regrets for meeting certain people or going through certain situations, if it didn’t bring you what you want it gave you what you needed. Just try to have a positive outlook on every obstacle in your life because worrying only takes away our moments of joy. The most important thing is knowing when to take a stand and say “Enough is enough,” decisions are not easy to make but they have to be made, that is how you move on to the next chapter.
As we live each day we learn different things about life, we realise who are the real people in our lives and who brings us down. QUALITY and not QUANTITY — that is what you need.
Like they say you are the Chief Executive Officer of your own life so if you don’t have it in control you will live by the people.
Above all have the Almighty as your guide and you won’t go astray.
