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YOU are so sensitive, you are so emotional, you are defensive, you are overreacting, calm down, relax, you are crazy! I was just joking, don’t you have a sense of humour. You’re so dramatic, Just get over it! Sounds familiar?
If you are a woman, it probably does. I am sure you have heard these comments from your spouse, partner, boss, friends, colleagues, or relatives after you have expressed frustration, sadness, or anger about something they have done or said.
BECAUSE I am a woman I am a little “sensitive”.That’s the way it is and I do not think one should be crucified for this. Well, of all the criticism that women endure, the critique I hear most often is that women are “too sensitive.” Ironically, I think this phrase is a bit harsh.
Why do so many of us think that being sensitive means you are a whiner or you are just a baby when it comes to emotions and feelings? Many of us (me included) grew up thinking sensitive meant being weak and I always used to think to myself that people who are sensitive need to suck it up and get a thicker skin. I thought sensitive people were too trusting and gullible, but I know from experience that I should be a bit wary about people and situations. Maybe it’s my sculpted inner self that warns me against certain things in life but I am sometimes too analytic and I pick up on people’s feelings, emotions, and energies very quickly.
As women we are sensitive to smells, surroundings, noise and a whole lot of things and I totally understand why we are like that. Most people think being sensitive is a bad thing as it makes one appear to be weak and some, especially men cannot stomach that we are sensitive and should be handled delicately. We have a limited amount of space in our lives, we need to ensure that we leave space or fill our space with people who truly lift us up on every level, sensitive or not.
I think a very sensitive person is highly aware of their surroundings. To be more aware of one’s surroundings makes one more in touch with reality. This means that more sensitive people are more in touch with reality, not less and I think this is actually a good thing. So when people shoot out about women being “too sensitive,” they are really saying that women are too aware of reality so do not be offended at all because the more sensitive you are, the more information you have with which to reason.
Given the opportunity to express themselves, most people will not say what they actually feel. Instead, they’ll say what they deem most appropriate at that particular time, or they’ll keep it inside, and share it later with someone who has nothing to do with the situation. Many of us grew up in environments that generally view honest verbal expression, particularly from women, as adversarial and even socially inappropriate or unladylike.
When we women speak up for ourselves, or remove the filters from our emotional spaces, we are told we’re being complicated (I know you’ve heard that one!), or taking something “way too personal.” Conversely, when most men speak up for themselves, they are apparently just saying how they feel.
So if you are going to criticise women, don’t criticise them for being “too sensitive,” as there is no such thing. Either you are simply less aware than them, because either way, being “too sensitive” is not a problem. If you are criticised for being “too sensitive,” take it as a compliment, because your heightened awareness only makes you more in touch with reality. You’re just a little more aware than the average can bear so use it to your advantage. Because I am a woman I totally understand why people tag us with all these labels but like I said you do not have to feel bad when you are forced to wear that tag. Let’s keep talking 0773089395.
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