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BECAUSE I am a woman I will encourage all the women out there to submit to their husbands. This week I had a conversation with a certain man, though it started off as an attack call it ended well. The caller accused me of making women rebel at home. He said his wife hardly gets through a sentence without quoting me, and her status updates are all about “because I am a woman”. But I am glad we managed to reach an agreement and I must say it was fun, so I was asked to do damage control and urge all women to submit to their husbands. I am doing away with selective writing.
Growing up, “wives submit to your husbands” used to be those words I heard in nearly every Christian wedding I attended, but I have noted that today those words are hardly ever spoken and in fact I think they are intentionally avoided. Part of the reason for the deliberate omission of these words is because of changes in our lives, much to do with the renewed sense of equality that women are striving towards.
But also has a great deal to do with the fact that over the years these words have been used as a hammer to get women to do whatever a man says, no matter what. The fact is, these words are avoided today by men and women largely because most people have no idea what these words mean and sometimes they are abused.
Please do not get me wrong when I say women must submit to their husbands. Submission doesn’t make you inferior or a doormat, it makes you a virtuous wise woman, my understanding of the word submission is not limited to wives alone. My Bible tells me, Abraham’s wife, Sarah, was an example of a woman who followed her husband’s lead as she submitted to him (1 Peter 3:6). Sarah was never confused with being a woman who was a frail doormat, she was not afraid so submission should not be confused with a person being weak. The bible also shows that Christians are to submit themselves to each other (Ephesians 5:21), to government (Romans 13:1), and unto God (James 4:7). This is a frequent concept in the Bible. Self-sacrifice is required in each circumstance. Submission is never glossed over to be seen as easy or always convenient. Instead, it is viewed as service unto God.
When a wife submits to her husband, she does not try to take leadership from him. I believe that Genesis 3:16 refers to Eve’s new sin drive to override her husband’s headship, which has continued down the line of women. Women use many tactics to try taking control of leadership, including nagging, deception, and manipulation. This always results in sorrowful consequences (Genesis 27). When a woman resorts to these tactics, she is trying to take over God’s good design of relationship roles. A submissive wife must first learn to trust God’s goodness and his sovereignty.
Women are not commanded to submit to their husband’s but the word ensures them that men will be just or loving therefore man should not command their wives to submit to them but should love them and in turn their wives will naturally submit to them. When a woman submits unto her husband, she is actually submitting unto God (Ephesians 5:22). A woman therefore does not submit because her husband deserves it in his own merit she submits because she knows it is pleasing to her Lord. There will be times when a woman needs to submit, and her husband does not deserve it from a human perspective but either way you as a woman should still submit to your husband. By divine right, God set the man as leader and a woman can trust that God is good and knows what is best. She can also know that nothing escapes God’s notice, and a wicked man will be held accountable for his actions, therefore just submit to your husband because it is the only divine way we know.
The power of a virtuous woman is not in physical strength, the world sees your husband through your eyes. What picture of him are you painting? Remember you’re identified by his name. There is a great man I know, my pastor, he always says in every man there is a king and fool and one should be careful when they talk to their husbands because if you talk to the fool in him he will surely treat you like a fool but if you call on the king in him he will let out the king in him. Because I am a woman and I want you to always be happy in your marriages I urge you to treat your husbands with respect and submit to them. Till next week let’s keep talking 0773089395.
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