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Hi Sis Noe
I AM in love with a wonderful girl but I get angry and jealous over little things like when she gets a call from a guy. I want to change this behaviour. Help.
Reply
Jealousy is a typical part of relationships, and to some people a little bit of envy can even be a turn-on that makes your partner feel wanted.
However, if jealousy gets out of control it can cause serious damage in your relationships. In this case, your desire to rein in your jealousy is a sign that you truly care about your girlfriend and want to keep your relationship healthy.
First, it’s worth taking a closer look at your feelings. Pinpointing what triggers your jealousy may help you to keep your anger in check next time an argument is brewing.
For example, what, or who, makes you feel jealous? Are you afraid of losing your partner to another person? Do you feel like you have trouble trusting her? Getting answers to these questions will help you get over your problem. When you are feeling green with envy, remember how much your girlfriend cares about you.
With communication and trust, hopefully you two will be able to keep jealousy at bay.
Hi Sis Noe
Is there anything called too much sex? My girlfriend says we are having too much sex and it is abnormal for her.
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Medically speaking, there is no definition of too much sex. Religion, culture, family values, personal feelings, and choice help define what each individual considers enough or too much sex. Generally speaking, frequency of sex is something to be negotiated with your partner.
People have different sex drives and what might be too much sex for one person could be just the right amount for another.
Having conversations about preferences and needs can help ensure that everyone involved is engaged in the amount of sex that feels right for them.
Hi Sis Noe
I have problems ejaculating when having sex with my girlfriend. At times I don’t even ejaculate and this is now frustrating me. Stressed.
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When it takes a very long period of sexual stimulation for someone with a penis to ejaculate, this is called delayed ejaculation. This may take about 30 to 45 minutes of sexual activity before you ejaculate, and sometimes you may find yourself unable to do so. If you cannot ejaculate at all, you may be experiencing anejaculation. There could be a psychological element, but there are also a number of other physical and external contributors to consider when trying to get to the bottom of your delayed ejaculation.
Your failure to ejaculate may be due to the following causes:
– Conditioning to a certain sensation through masturbation
– Mental health conditions, such as depression or anxiety
– Relationship stress or poor communication with partner
– Performance anxiety
– Low self-esteem or negative body image
– Cultural or religious pressure/expectations
– Difference between sexual expectations and reality
– Medication or substances
– Birth defects that affect the reproductive system
– Injury to the pelvic nerves that control orgasm
– Infections
– Prostate surgery
– Neurological diseases
– Hormonal conditions such as hypogonadism or hypothyroidism
– Retrograde ejaculation, in which the semen goes into the bladder instead of out through the urethra
Hi Sis Noe
I am 18 years old and my breasts are not the same size.
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Breast size and shape are unique to each breast-owner, and each breast can have its own distinct attributes. Some people’s breasts don’t fill an A cup while others exceed a DD; one breast may be firm while the other sags; some are smooth under the skin and others are more lumpy.
There might be differences in nipple-size or appearance, and some females have one inverted nipple, while the other sticks out.
It is most likely that your different-sized breasts are not a cause for concern. It also might help to know that breasts go through typical changes across the lifespan.
If you have just started developing breasts, one may grow faster than the other, so it can be difficult to know the degree of asymmetry until around age 20.
The breast sizes may even out by the end of puberty or they may not — 25 percent of adults with breasts have some form of asymmetry. Even after breasts reach their full development, hormonal fluctuations can change their shape and appearance across your lifespan.
For example, while menstruating, breasts become fuller and tenderer; for those who are pregnant and nursing, they generally enlarge a great deal; and, for those who experience menopause, breasts may have more lumps.
Generally, differences between breast size and shape are nothing to worry about, but in some cases they can indicate existing conditions or risk factors. It’s possible that asymmetry could be caused by an injury to the breast before puberty or an abnormal rib cage or spinal structure. Studies have also found that there is a slight correlation between a breast asymmetry ratio over 20 percent and breast cancer risk. Since there are many individual differences in breast size and shape, it’s good to have an understanding of what is normal for you.
Becoming familiar with your breasts will help you notice any changes in the tissue that may be a cause for concern. If you detect anything different from the usual, it’s best to consult with your health care provider.
