The Sunday News
Hi Sis Noe
I am a 17-year-old girl and I want to find out whether I can get any diseases from kissing?
Reply
There is no need for you to be worried. As long as you are BOTH HEALTHY, kissing including French kissing is highly unlikely to transmit any disease, including HIV, the virus that causes Aids, and other STDs. The only diseases that you can get are the common cold and flu. The herpes virus that causes cold sores on the lips or inside of the mouth can be spread through kissing, too. Hepatitis B and some forms of bacterial meningitis could also be transmitted through kissing alone, but this is much less common than getting a cold or flu from swapping saliva or hand-to-hand contact with an infected person.
Hi Sis Noe
I want to marry my girlfriend. The problem is that when we have sex I always smell a nasty smell from her vagina and it puts me off. What could it be?
Reply
A healthy vagina should not have a smell that you cannot stand. Often times such a smell, especially if it is “nasty”, indicates some sort of infection. It’s hard for a woman to smell her own vagina, unless it smells very bad. As her partner, you get a lot closer to it than she does, so it’s natural that you would notice this whiff. Don’t comment about it. Don’t say it’s disgusting or anything. Just say that you have noticed it and urge her to see a doctor immediately.
Hi Sis Noe
I am 18 and seriously stressed as I am producing yellow pus. I have never had sex before, just oral sex only. I am still a virgin. please help.
Reply
Before addressing the matter of yellow vaginal discharge and its causes, first stop panicking, until the cause is determined. The colour of it is no reason to panic. See a doctor and s/he will use the vaginal discharge to make an accurate diagnosis of what ails you. I urge you not to panic because women at some point will have a discharge, which is a secretion the vagina releases. There is absolutely nothing abnormal about this, however, if accompanied with pain, vaginal itching or burning then it’s not deemed normal and should be checked out. But you should know that it’s normal for the vagina to produce a clear to whitish discharge throughout the menstrual cycle. It can vary in consistency from thick and gooey to thin slimy or creamy. A normal discharge is odourless. If there is a nasty smell this could signify a problem. The amount of vaginal fluid can greatly increase at times of stress and ovulation. If your discharge is deemed normal you can make it clear by drinking plenty of water and reducing your intake of beverages, tea and coffee. Cut down on sugar and sweet substances. If you drink alcohol or you misuse drugs then that could be the cause of the yellow discharge. Abstaining from all that helps. You should also know that oral sex is not safe, you are just at risk as the person who indulges in sexual intercourse. Oral sex can lead to oral herpes and it can also result in you having both strains of herpes in your mouth — the herpes of the sexual organs and oral herpes. Other STDs like chlamydia and gonorrhoea can also be passed during oral sex. While risk of HIV infection through oral sex is extremely low compared with unprotected penetrative sex, it is still dangerous. HIV-infected semen or vaginal fluid can enter through an open wound in the mouth. If I was you I would stop doing it.
Hi Sis Noe
I am 20 years old, my parents want me to marry a 76-year-old man, I do not like him, what should I do? Please help me.
Reply
Frankly I think your parents have lost their marbles — a marriage with a man who is 56 years older than you is over-stretching it. This man is too old to make a good husband; he won’t be able to satisfy you sexually. He won’t be able to relate with you, what he thinks makes life is not what you think. You won’t have a meaningful conversation with him at all, while he wants to discuss old issues about this and that, you want to live your youthful days to the full. This man is a cradle snatcher; he will drain the life out of you. Come to think of it, he is in the twilight of his life, it might sound callous but its reality, this man will die on you before you have gone a mile in your marriage. You will be a widow at a young age. Granted, people die even the young ones but at least their deaths are not predictable as this one. In my book its not lack of respect if you refuse to get married to this man. It’s a sign that you won’t accept a marriage that will leave you in the doldrums. I don’t care whether this man is very rich; some things are not worth losing your life over. I know it’s difficult when you are caught between listening to your parents and disappointing them but don’t let yourself be pressurised into doing anything you don’t want to. Tell this octogenarian that it just isn’t going to happen. You are 20, it means constitutionally you have the right to do whatever makes you happy. If making you happy means not going through an arranged marriage then don’t do it. If talking to them doesn’t help, maybe you need to make some type of drastic change. I’m not promoting hate here, I am only telling you to stand tall for what you truly believe. Approach your aunts or other elderly relatives and tell them what your parents want you to do. If they are in on the plan then you should consider going to the police.
