The Sunday News
Pastor Kilton Moyo
TODAY is Valentine’s Day where it is believed lovers celebrate and enjoy love. It can only be my dream that all of us will get some time to love each other as spouses a bit more than yesterday. It is in this desire that I write to you today under such a topic, above, taken loosely from the BIBLE in Song of Songs 4:11. “Your lips, O my spouse, drip as honeycomb; honey and milk are under your tongue; and the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon.”
This is a man in love praising his spouse and showing his deep feelings for her. My prayer is that love will conquer our hearts as couples so we can intimately love each other for our own good and to the glory of God. I want to share with you only two tips on building your love today and the rest of the year. It’s all in the Bible and so building love or loving your spouse madly is not a carnal thing. It is a holy thing and the right thing to do.
Praise her beauty
All of us want to be praised but no one needs praise more than a woman in love. To her, praising her beauty and telling her how beautiful she is does not only boost her self-confidence but ravishes her heart and makes her give it all. A wife who is praised for her beauty is a loving wife.
The challenge with us is that most men feel shy to praise their wives or even to give love comments on their beauty.
We have killed the art of verbal lovemaking. The biggest mistake you can make is to fail to see her beauty every time.
Praising and talking about her beauty builds her confidence in you also and her love flows naturally like that. Women are attracted to praise and affirmation of their beauty. You certainly do not want other men to do that for you. If you read the Bible see how the man praises her wife’s beauty in Song of Songs 6 to 7. See how he notices what you would call small things. “Your teeth are like a flock of sheep which have come up from the washing. . .” “The curves of your thighs are like jewels, the work of the hands of a skillful workman.”
“Your waist is a heap of wheat set about with lilies. Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle.” Here is a man who enjoys the beauty of his woman. Here is a man who realises and recognises beauty and can describe it for the sake of love. Love admires beauty. Love sees beauty in what it loves. Love praises and praises always. Maybe this weekend you have got to see something in her and praise her. Maybe you have not looked into those eyes for a while; you can do now and see the beauty. The truth is they are still beautiful as long as you have love. Praise your wife’s beauty and enjoy her nourishment and companionship. Beloved, I think we have a duty as men to appreciate the beauty in our wives no matter what. Do I have any takers out there? May love grow in our houses.
Rejoice in each other
I mean what will be the point of marrying if you cannot rejoice in your spouse? In your spouse you find total happiness, joy and peace. If you cannot find these then something has gone wrong. You have to correct it now before it is too late. Enjoy your wife. Enjoy your husband. She or he is the best thing you have. After all love rejoices in others and in good things. The Bible says that he who finds a wife finds a good thing. I mean if surely you have found a wife, you will rejoice in them because they are a good thing. Beloved, I think what we need to understand is that love is independent of our circumstances. It is not defined or made by our situations, politically, culturally or whatever.
It stands on it’s own and it is pure. It is joyful. It celebrates. It appreciates. It breaks through every barrier and is too powerful to be contained or killed by any force in the earth. If you are in true love, you are in joy. You are rejoicing in what you love. Have you seen of late soccer fans rejoicing over their teams? You can rejoice in your spouse more than that. Praising them and seeing their beauty keeps you rejoicing in them. The challenge is that we see too many mistakes and weaknesses and magnify these more. These will sadden your spirit and rob you of the very spirit of your love. Take your eyes and focus off the perceived wrongs and see the things that brought you together and celebrate them and rejoice in them.
Marriage is a place of joy. Love is a joyous force. We celebrate it this month not just to wear red colours but with hope to live it and give it. We need to learn or re-learn the lost art of verbal lovemaking in marriage. We need to learn to speak the words of love that light up your spouse’s soul.
If you want more, you can join us this evening at Wozani Lodge where we will be talking to some couples there.
Happy Valentines to all couples out there. Happy Valentines to all pre-weds out there. Be refreshed.
Kilton Moyo is creator of Fruitful Marriages, a renewal and enrichment program and is pastor, counselor and author of The Sex Trap. Call or whatsap on +263 775 337 207, +263 772 610 103 or [email protected]
