The Sunday News
Hi Sis Noe
I AM an 18-year-old beautiful girl but I don’t have a boyfriend. I want to know how I can get a boyfriend. How do I tell if a guy wants me? — Worried.
Reply
You need to have a good look around you. Of the guys that you like, are any of them talking to you, giving you hints, checking you out, being really friendly? If any of that is true you may be in. The thing is that it can sometimes be difficult to know how someone feels about you when you don’t really know them.
You just need to look for signals, and if that person is serious about you, they will try their hardest to make an impression. If they are going out of their way to talk with you or do stuff with you then that’s a good sign. If there is that one guy you really want to go out with then you need to do certain things — talk to him and show an interest in what he is doing. If you love going out, to movies or wherever, there is no harm in asking him to come along.
If you are a shy person, when he is walking past you, smile at him. It is not hard to do and most importantly it sends a message that you are approachable. But you must know that just going up and talking to a guy is much easier than you think.
Just walk up to him and start small talk about anything, the weather, school, sport etc. That small talk usually turns into real talk and before you know it you have yourself a boyfriend. Talk to your friends, and see how they got hooked up with their guys. You will be surprised how easy most of their replies will be. Don’t worry about them thinking you are an idiot for asking, people love to share their opinion on dating. You might be surprised that when you talk to them about it, they may know of a guy interested in you, or hook you up with one of their guy friends, you never know.
Hi Sis Noe
My boyfriend and I are planning to get married but lately things have not been well between us. We fight a lot. I am now also seeing this married guy at work and he makes me happy. I am now confused and I don’t know what to do. — Help.
Reply
Don’t get married — if you decide to cheat just because you and your man are having problems then you are not ready to be a wife. Let’s get real here, you are not even married and already both of you sound like you have fallen off the horse. As for the guy at work — that is a case of in the right place at the right time. He is married — you are just a distraction from his marital problems. It’s very easy for a married man who is not happy with his wife to manipulate a single woman. He has the power to tell you the exact words you are looking for to get that warm fuzzy feeling, because trust me he has been there and done that.
He knows exactly what to say to get you going. Run for the hills before you get hurt.
Hi Sis Noe
I am dating a married woman, things used to be great between us but lately she is avoiding me. I suspect that she is cheating on me. — Cheated.
Reply
Ah! You are writing to me because you want some level of sympathy because the married woman you are seeing is cheating on you? Are you a moron? You should not be with her at all — she is married. She takes you for granted because you do not matter — she just wanted sex — she has had her fill — you are yesterday’s news. I am not exactly sure what you are looking for in this relationship — sex or a relationship? She most likely thinks of you as a casual encounter, you are thinking it’s much more. Whatever it is I think its best you leave her.
Hi Sis Noe
Is it true that you can get pregnant while on the pill and what are the chances of that happening? — Curious.
Reply
Yes, you can get pregnant while on the pill. There are a number of reasons why a woman on birth control pills could become pregnant. The most common is that she neglects to take the pill on one or more days. Depending on how busy your lifestyle is or how frequently you renew your birth control pill prescription, it can be easy to forget to go to the drugstore and then delay starting a new package — while still being sexually active. Another mistake that women sometimes make is taking the pill at different times on different days. Birth control pills should be taken at the same time every day. It is admittedly inconvenient to have to take a pill every single day, always at about the same time — but this is essential to ensure that birth control pills work successfully to prevent pregnancy. Also, birth control pills are sometimes affected by other medications. Certain antibiotics, anti-seizure and anti-fungal medications have been linked to reduced effectiveness in birth control pills, along with some herbs and vitamins. Before your physician prescribes any new medication, make sure to let her or him know that you are on the pill, to avoid any potential problems.
Hi Sis Noe
I’m 16 and I am having a problem of producing whitish stuff and water but I don’t know the cause of this. — Help.
Reply
Vaginal discharge is very normal. Glands inside your vagina and cervix make small amounts of fluid. This fluid flows out of the vagina each day, carrying out old cells that have lined the vagina. This is your body’s way of keeping your vagina healthy and clean. The discharge is usually clear or milky and doesn’t smell bad. The colour and thickness of the discharge change with your monthly cycle. The discharge is thicker when you ovulate (when one of your ovaries releases an egg). Changes that may signal a problem include an increase in the amount of discharge, a change in the colour or smell of the discharge, and irritation, itchiness or burning in or around your vagina. This is called vaginitis. A discharge that is stained with blood when you are not having your period could also be a sign of a problem. If you have any of these signs, you should talk to your doctor.
I am sure there is nothing wrong with you but you can avoid vaginitis by wiping yourself from front to back after using the toilet. This helps prevent bacteria from your rectal area getting into your vagina. Wear cotton underpants during the day.
Cotton allows your genital area to breathe. Don’t wear underpants at night. Avoid wearing tight pants, pantyhose, swimming suits, biking shorts or leotards for long periods. Change your laundry detergent or fabric softener if you think it may be irritating your genital area. Avoid hot tubs. Bath or shower daily and pat your genital area dry. Avoid feminine hygiene sprays, coloured or perfumed toilet paper, deodorant pads or tampons, and bubble bath.
Hi Sis Noe
I am 26 and married. After ejaculation, my sperms find their way out of my wife’s vagina. Will I be able to reproduce? — Worried.
Reply
Sperm leakage from the vagina is normal and to be expected when there is enough of the ejaculate. Sperm leakage means there is enough of the ejaculate. Most people notice some discharge immediately after sex and some think it’s the cause of infertility. The fluid coming out of the vagina is a portion of the ejaculate. But less than five percent of the ejaculate is actually sperm; over 95 percent is made up of other fluids.
Leakage of the ejaculate from the vagina is highly unlikely to prevent your wife from getting pregnant. In fact, it’s totally normal for some of the ejaculate to come out of her vagina after intercourse. If you ejaculate deeply inside her, then you can be sure that no matter how much of the ejaculate leaks out afterward, enough sperm will reach the cervical mucus. If your wife stays on her back for the suggested 15-20 minutes after intercourse, hips slightly elevated, this leakage of the ejaculate is usually not a cause of infertility. But usually it is a good sign that some ejaculate leaks out because it may mean that you are depositing your semen normally in her vagina and that there is enough of it.
