The Sunday News
Pastor Kilton Moyo
ONE of the reasons for our struggles in this life is building it on faulty foundations. If you really would care to look around, you will realise that even our families, most of them are built on faulty foundations which make our lives and families very vulnerable during storm times. Many people do not know how to stand and remain standing in hard times.
Many families too, do not know how to stand and remain standing together in storms. They will just dissolve like that or just destroy each other like that. I am not very surprised to see and read about so much evil perpetuated within families against family members. To me it is all about foundations. If the foundations are faulty, the whole structure is faulty and condemned. I think this generation fails to understand the value and importance of family in nationhood and in God’s plan for nations. I will come to you next week with this important issue.
Today I want us to look at some faulty foundations that we have built our families on.
I mean, can somebody tell me why a mother would behead her baby? Tell me why a husband would stab to death or even behead his wife? Why would a woman kill another woman’s child just because they are fighting over a man? Tell me why a father would lie with his own daughter and why an uncle would propose love to his nephew’s wife. Tell me why people do what they do in our families? Where is all this evil coming from? Where is all this rebellion coming from? What has happened to the family system in our generation? I have many questions than answers but what I realise is that the generality of the family worldwide is built on faulty foundations.
Right from the beginning, the family was to be a God thing and not a manmade thing. In Genesis 1: 26-27 God wants to create man in His image and goes on to create a marriage or a family. Have you ever looked at that in your Bible?
When you are talking family, I think you are talking about the image of God. His image is made manifest in our marriages or families. In other words, family is of God and for God and we must build it upon the purpose of its Creator but look at what we have done, coming up with our own foundations that have rubbished the whole concept of family.
What are these faulty foundations therefore?
Jealousy. Look at the jealousy in most families these days. Yes, jealousy has always been there even in Bible times but this does not justify it. It is a wrong spirit that causes families to turn against each other and kick love and brotherliness out of the system. Jealousy has led to many evil things done to each other. Families have fought and bewitched each other because of jealousy. Families fight unnecessary wars and compromise on the quality of family life. Surprisingly this jealousy is being perpetuated from one generation to another. It’s even shocking that Christian families are still caught up in this demonic doctrine too. Family is a place of teaching love. This is a place where people must learn tolerance, forgiveness, kindness and carrying each other’s burdens. Humanity is shaped here.
Family is a place of unity and oneness. Where there is unity, God commands a blessing and life forever more. You can deny it but one of the contributing reasons for painful poverty in the family today is jealousy and lack of unity. Many family members do not want to help each other. They have nothing to do with each other and they compete and mock each other like that. They are always planning evil against each other. This is a shame to the purpose of Family.
Idolatry. This is another faulty foundation upon which many families are built. The object of worship in each family is crucial. Many families are built on a mindset that rejects God and creates it’s on gods. How do you reject the one who created Family? God is the creator of family and He knows why. The Bible teaches us in Psalm 127: 1-2 that If God does not build a house, they labour in vain that build it. I have seen so many families labouring in vain. Idolatry is costly. It takes away your resources and your life at the end. It leads and opens a huge window of witchcraft in families. The gods many people worship as their family gods are blood seekers and always turn people against each other. Have you not noticed that they are always demanding from you and will always tell you one of you is bewitching you. Beloved, you may reject it but idolatry is a faulty foundation. Nothing lasting can be built on this. It creates suspicion, anger, and competition to appease the gods, sacrificing human blood to appease the gods and open all kinds of avenues to all forms of sin in the family. It is responsible for incest, rape and many other hideous crimes people have committed against each other in the families. It is responsible for the shameful poverty in most families.
This poisons the spirituality of the family and takes away the whole thing away from God. It is an anti-God spirit and attitude whose mission is destruction.
Human wisdom is another faulty foundation. Building your family based on human cultural knowledge without God is a total recipe for disaster. Look at what humanism has done in America or Europe. The family has been so compromised it has lost its meaning and impact. It is now a social club. The State has usurped all the authority and power of the family. The so-called human rights have taken over and destroyed the family. We call it many things. To them out there is what they call democracy. To us in Africa is what we call civilisation or being educated. This is a shame. This has killed discipline in the family. It has killed ubuntu and the order of the Creator is compromised.
Humanism suggests to us that God is wrong and harsh and therefore we must tone Him down. What deception is this?
Other faulty foundations could be things like drunkenness and adultery or promiscuity. There are many families built on these terrible foundations and boast about these as their inheritance. Sin can never be an inheritance.
The family cannot be a family if not built on the right foundation. Those that are building on these faulty foundations are building shacks and on the pillows of their beds, on that day when life is going out of them, cry tears of regret, but it will be late. I tell you, many of us put on masks while inside we are mourning because we realise we messed up. It is never too late to turn things around. That is why Jesus is alive today. Seek help and turn your family around.
We do offer Biblical family counselling and we are there to help those who need our help.
Kilton Moyo is creator of Fruitful Marriages, a renewal and enrichment program and is pastor, counselor and author of The Sex Trap. Call or whatsap on +263775337207, +263772610103 or [email protected]
