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Hi Sis Noe
WHAT are the dangers of having anal sex? — Curious.
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Anal sex is defined as an act in which the penis is inserted into the anus of a sexual partner. In my words it involves trying to prevent a partner from defecating by pushing faeces back into the rectum. Disgusting isn’t it? Such a description of anal sex is deliberate because I don’t want you to do it.
Anal sex carries an elevated risk of passing on diseases because the anal sphincter is delicate, easily-torn tissue; a tear can provide an entry for pathogens. The high concentration of white blood cells around the rectum, together with the risk of tearing and the rectum’s function to absorb fluid, places those who engage in unprotected anal sex at high risk of sexually transmitted infections.
It increases the risk of anal cancer, anal warts and STIs. It can result in Hepatitis A which is a viral infection that can cause jaundice and abdominal pain. There is also the risk of Hepatitis C which is a progressive and sometimes fatal chronic liver disease.
It can lead to serious kidney infection. Most gravely there is no doubt that anal intercourse carries a greater risk of transmission of HIV than other sexual activities, particularly for the receptive partner. It is theoretically possible that frequent or vigorous anal sex could put undue pressure on the posterior (back) vaginal wall. This could lead to an increased risk for passing gas (farting) or even to anal continence problems.
Hi Sis Noe
I shaved my pubic hair off now I have pimples on my groin area. What could it be? — Worried.
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It is probably folliculitis. This condition occurs when hairs become ingrown under the skin instead of growing out. Skin bacteria may infect the area and you get these little red pimple-like bumps that have white dots on top, just like little zits. It is not a big deal; it would have gone away on its own after a few days had you not scratched it.
Look for an antibiotic cream and apply on the area but it is not necessary as this is a self-limiting condition. If your condition persists, you may see a doctor for an antibiotic but I don’t think it will. Razors are nasty because they are very likely to make ingrown hairs as they cut the hair causing it to get stuck under the skin. Next time use a shaving machine and instead of removing all the pubic hair trim it.
Hi Sis Noe
I am thin and I hate that because it’s difficult to find clothes that fit and look nice on me. I went to the doctor and he said there was nothing wrong with me but still I am bothered by my weight. — Worried.
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What you need to adjust is not your weight but your state of mind. Being lightweight is not an issue; the issue is that you lack confidence in all aspects of life.
You don’t need to gain weight to enjoy your life. You need to be always positive. While you fret about gaining weight some people envy your body, they want to lose weight but they are frustrated by the gruelling weight loss exercises they have to do.
Learn to love yourself and stop looking at other people. I am compelled to suspect that you are obsessed about gaining weight because of societal expectations. Are your friends telling you that you are not healthy? Definitely something needs to be adjusted but it’s not your weight. Accept who you are and turn your back to the mirror, maybe its lying to you. There are more important things in life to worry about than the size of your dress.
SOULMATES
I am a 41-year-old single mother based in Bulawayo. I am looking for a man who wants a serious relationship.
I am a 34-year-old HIV-positive man hoping to be connected with an HIV-positive woman aged 27 to 34 living with not more than two children.
I am a lady aged 42 HIV-positive looking for a man aged 42 to 50. I have two kids. I want a serious relationship. A God-fearing man if possible.
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I am a guy aged 30 looking for a serious lady aged from 20 to 30 years.
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Ngingumama olemnyaka engu 42 ngilabantwana 5 ngidinga ubaba ole45 kusiyaphezulu esingaphila sonke ma ekhona engi inbox kunumber zonalezi kuapp.
I am a men age 37 looking for a lady who is naturally beautiful preferably in Bulawayo or Kwekwe who is negative and ready for marriage with love working or not working.
I am kindly asking you to join me with a young man who wants a serious relationship. I am 22 years old lady with one child.
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I am a guy aged 45; need beautiful lady for long-term relationship. I am around Gweru-Zvishavane area.
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I’m a 34-year-old man looking for a loving and caring woman aged between 20-34 years.
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I am a woman aged 44 and divorced for six years. Please help me with someone to date.
I am a 47-year-old God-fearing man who is HIV-positive. I am based in Bulawayo. The woman should be 40 and below.
I am a 37-year-old HIV-positive man who is based in Bulawayo. I am a civil servant, I seek a beautiful lady of the same status who is willing to settle down.
I am an HIV-positive woman aged 40 looking for a man who is aged 43 to 50 who wants a serious relationship. He should be in Bulawayo.
I am a 39-year-old man looking for a lady friend.
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