The Sunday News
Nhlalwenhle Ncube
Dear woman
IN this part of the world, a woman is expected to compromise in relationships even if she’s dying. People are always quick to tell a woman to dumb down herself for a man for her relationship to work.
Women are told to act humble so that they can get husbands to marry them even if these men are nothing close to humility. I don’t know who made these rules that only women must adhere to. This is why many women are crumbling under the weight of bad relationships and marriages because they are making unnecessary compromises just to keep men who bring them nothing but headaches and heartaches.
As a woman, you are told to act unintelligent and refrain from airing your views so that you won’t chase away husband material. Little wonder many women are enduring bad relationships with badly behaved and irresponsible men because they are following what society tells them to do.
Dear woman, stop. Stop making compromises for men who don’t care about your sanity, peace and heart. Stop making relationship compromises that won’t benefit you in the long run. You are not a beast of burden, stop suffering unnecessarily because of men who don’t know how to love or what it takes to be in a loving relationship.
In an ideal relationship, compromise helps couples to deal with each other’s differences without changing who they are. They are those things you do so that you can be on the same page with your partner in your relationship.
There are compromises you make daily that make you flexible to accommodate your partner’s preferences too. But there are bigger compromises no woman should make in relationships because of a man or because she wants to save her relationship.
It is important not to allow society to trick you into making unhealthy compromises just to keep a man. As a woman, you should compromise in a relationship without changing yourself. It is sad that some compromises only take away your happiness and bring nothing, except sorrow.
No matter how much you love a man, don’t compromise yourself worth for any relationship. A woman should be treated with love and respect by her man. He should stay by her side through good and bad times. Dear woman, don’t accept verbal, emotional and physical abuse in your relationship. Unhealthy communication can be seriously damaging to your self-esteem.
If you want to live a fulfilled life as a woman, don’t compromise your life’s dreams and goals for a man. A woman needs to go after her dreams and goals with passion. Your man should support your goals and support you in pursuing them.
Any man who tries to keep you from seeing your family and friends is a potential abuser. While his possessiveness may make you feel wanted and special in the beginning, it can also be a red flag of things to come later in the relationship. You need your family and friends in life and not only a boyfriend or a husband.
Your core values depict who you are at your very soul, don’t compromise this for any relationship or marriage. Your man should respect your life values and not expect you to throw them away because of him. You don’t have to stop being who you are or stop believing in your values because of a man.
If you are used to living your life in a certain way, your partner shouldn’t demand you give up your lifestyle just so you can be with him. Compromising the way you live your life for a man will make you miserable. There’s no use wasting your time with him if your life vision doesn’t align. Stop listening to people who love to suffer.
You don’t need a man who makes you go against your life’s principles. Don’t compromise your principles for any man. Don’t put up with anything unless you are genuinely okay with it.
Ladies, don’t give up your financial security for a man. Any man that wants to financially cripple you is an enemy of progress.
Open your eyes on time. And if he doesn’t want you to be financially empowered, claiming that you won’t be a submissive wife if you have money, he’s an enemy of progress. Any man who doesn’t want his woman to make money is a potential abuser.
You don’t have to compromise your body and womb by committing series of abortions for that man you are dating. He refuses to use condoms during sex, yet whenever you end up pregnant, he tells you to commit an abortion without blinking. Use your brain, he doesn’t love you.
As a woman, having communication compatibility is very important in your relationship. You don’t have to be putting up with a man who doesn’t communicate with you and one you don’t know what he’s thinking and feeling.
Men should learn to make relationship compromises too. They are not immune to working to make their relationships work.
It is not the duty of women alone to make compromises for their relationships. It takes two to make a relationship work.
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